I am hoping this is a good place to start but basically I just need to open up a little. I have been married over 16 years and with the woman since high school. We have been through a lot. Recently she told me she has seriously thought about divorce.
Now to be honest, I have not been the greatest husband...I don't want to make excused. Since we have had kids there have been time where we are distant, I have not done a good job at making her feel special, needed, desired...the things that should be there naturally in a marriage. She decided to tell me and let us work it out...after all 25 years together is a long time.
I had been making a serious effort to change. We have been having sex alot more. More in the past month than the entire year. We have been spending more time together and having fun. But I have had a gut wrenching feeling that there was something more, something she wasn't telling me. It turns out she had a connection with someone from work. She swears nothing physical happened, but she is attracted to him. She said it was fun and exciting and made her feel special for the first time in years. I couldn't argue, especially if she was being honest.
Now it's awkward and seems like starting from square one. I feel terrible and depressed and it sucks with the upcoming holidays.
Sorry for the long post...just looking for wisdom and maybe a female perspective.
Thanks
Now to be honest, I have not been the greatest husband...I don't want to make excused. Since we have had kids there have been time where we are distant, I have not done a good job at making her feel special, needed, desired...the things that should be there naturally in a marriage. She decided to tell me and let us work it out...after all 25 years together is a long time.
I had been making a serious effort to change. We have been having sex alot more. More in the past month than the entire year. We have been spending more time together and having fun. But I have had a gut wrenching feeling that there was something more, something she wasn't telling me. It turns out she had a connection with someone from work. She swears nothing physical happened, but she is attracted to him. She said it was fun and exciting and made her feel special for the first time in years. I couldn't argue, especially if she was being honest.
Now it's awkward and seems like starting from square one. I feel terrible and depressed and it sucks with the upcoming holidays.
Sorry for the long post...just looking for wisdom and maybe a female perspective.
Thanks
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