Hi there,
I'm in a pickle. My wife is Spanish and has lived here for many years without being able to see her family that much. Needless to say, this is quite difficult for her, missing her parents and culture.
Thing is, whenever we plan to go to Spain to visit her family, if this happens to coincide with a family event on my side (like an upcoming cousin's wedding) my family (parents, sister and brother and law) put the guilt trip on me BIG time.
No matter how many times I explain it I just can't get them to see that my wife has not only missed many of her own families weddings but misses her parents so much, that they should really be more empathetic towards her than my cousin the most I get out of them is "I know, I know, it's difficult but your cousin would really want you to be there."
That'll be the most empathetic I get them to be after discussing the topic for an hour. I never get a "You know what, if I was away from my parents, I'd want to see them no matter what!" Which is what we would ALL feel if we were so far from home. But we can see our family anytime so they just don't get it.
I will be supporting my wife here and we will be going to see her family. I'm just out of ideas on how to get my family to understand the situation for what it is.
This happens with Weddings, Xmas parties, family parties, etc.
To make matters worse, I'm pretty sure my cousin is going to ask me to be best man. Turning that down is going to cause quite the uproar. :scratchhead:
I'm in a pickle. My wife is Spanish and has lived here for many years without being able to see her family that much. Needless to say, this is quite difficult for her, missing her parents and culture.
Thing is, whenever we plan to go to Spain to visit her family, if this happens to coincide with a family event on my side (like an upcoming cousin's wedding) my family (parents, sister and brother and law) put the guilt trip on me BIG time.
No matter how many times I explain it I just can't get them to see that my wife has not only missed many of her own families weddings but misses her parents so much, that they should really be more empathetic towards her than my cousin the most I get out of them is "I know, I know, it's difficult but your cousin would really want you to be there."
That'll be the most empathetic I get them to be after discussing the topic for an hour. I never get a "You know what, if I was away from my parents, I'd want to see them no matter what!" Which is what we would ALL feel if we were so far from home. But we can see our family anytime so they just don't get it.
I will be supporting my wife here and we will be going to see her family. I'm just out of ideas on how to get my family to understand the situation for what it is.
This happens with Weddings, Xmas parties, family parties, etc.
To make matters worse, I'm pretty sure my cousin is going to ask me to be best man. Turning that down is going to cause quite the uproar. :scratchhead:
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