Hi everyone.
Been lurking for the last 4 weeks but first time posting.
Basically my wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for the last 2. Last month while I was working away a weekend something didn't sit right with me about my wife and her behaviour so I checked up on her.
She had told me she was off to see her friend for dinner then out into town with her and her boyfriend to a party and then back to stay at her friends house. Spoke to her once during the day but then couldn't reach her. I didn't hear from her till 12 the next day - she said her phone had died. She told me she had got drunk, got a taxi home and her friend came and picked her up early the next morning for her car and things and she came back home and went to bed. Like I say the story didn't ring true so I did some digging.
We have CCTV at home due to a previous home invasion and it shows her leaving one afternoon and not coming back till dinner the next day. No evidence of a taxi dropping her off and no evidence of the friend the next morning coming to collect her. She is also wearing the same clothes on both days (if she had come home her clothes would have still been stuck at her friends). Also when I came home she had washed the (very short) dress and the underwear she wore that night on its own and left it in the machine as she fell asleep and forgot about it, I feel it was her intention to get it washed, dried and put away before I came back.
She has been a bit distant lately so I dug some more and basically looked at her FB and phone. Found some partially deleted messages from a lad asking if he could see her at the weekend and what we doing today. I also found a message declaring his undying love for her. She refers to him as "baby" and "sweetheart" in her replies.
Anyway I confronted her about this and she told me she had told him she was happily married and to leave her alone and that the CCTV must be wrong. I have had the usual "you are never there for me speech." I work hard to provide us with a nice house and nice lifestyle I say. She also brings up the fact I cheated on her after we had been together a month 6 years ago and that she has had to let that go. I have never been with or would want to be with anyone since that point and certainly would never forsake my marriage vows.
The initial shock has calmed down but now I am trying to figure out where we go from here. I have adopted the 180 plan as a bit of a self preservation strategy in the meantime but not really sure where to take it from here.
She doesn't know as yet as to the level of my knowledge but basically I have texts going back years between the two of them. Always very pushy from his side and very attention seeking from my wife but I haven't seen anything sexual between them.
Do I challenge her with the further evidence or continue on my 180?
Thanks for reading.
Been lurking for the last 4 weeks but first time posting.
Basically my wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for the last 2. Last month while I was working away a weekend something didn't sit right with me about my wife and her behaviour so I checked up on her.
She had told me she was off to see her friend for dinner then out into town with her and her boyfriend to a party and then back to stay at her friends house. Spoke to her once during the day but then couldn't reach her. I didn't hear from her till 12 the next day - she said her phone had died. She told me she had got drunk, got a taxi home and her friend came and picked her up early the next morning for her car and things and she came back home and went to bed. Like I say the story didn't ring true so I did some digging.
We have CCTV at home due to a previous home invasion and it shows her leaving one afternoon and not coming back till dinner the next day. No evidence of a taxi dropping her off and no evidence of the friend the next morning coming to collect her. She is also wearing the same clothes on both days (if she had come home her clothes would have still been stuck at her friends). Also when I came home she had washed the (very short) dress and the underwear she wore that night on its own and left it in the machine as she fell asleep and forgot about it, I feel it was her intention to get it washed, dried and put away before I came back.
She has been a bit distant lately so I dug some more and basically looked at her FB and phone. Found some partially deleted messages from a lad asking if he could see her at the weekend and what we doing today. I also found a message declaring his undying love for her. She refers to him as "baby" and "sweetheart" in her replies.
Anyway I confronted her about this and she told me she had told him she was happily married and to leave her alone and that the CCTV must be wrong. I have had the usual "you are never there for me speech." I work hard to provide us with a nice house and nice lifestyle I say. She also brings up the fact I cheated on her after we had been together a month 6 years ago and that she has had to let that go. I have never been with or would want to be with anyone since that point and certainly would never forsake my marriage vows.
The initial shock has calmed down but now I am trying to figure out where we go from here. I have adopted the 180 plan as a bit of a self preservation strategy in the meantime but not really sure where to take it from here.
She doesn't know as yet as to the level of my knowledge but basically I have texts going back years between the two of them. Always very pushy from his side and very attention seeking from my wife but I haven't seen anything sexual between them.
Do I challenge her with the further evidence or continue on my 180?
Thanks for reading.
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