Hi, I wonder if the women here could throw in their opinions on something, hence me putting this in the women's section.
Ok, long story short, I went on holiday to Thailand last year. I met a nice girl there, she's 23 now and I'm 41, so that's an 18 year age gap. We had a few dates and then I went back home to London. A couple of months later she came here too. It was nothing to do with me, she has relatives here and I knew she was going to be here sooner or later. She's now here more or less permanently, and she's working.
Her english I would say is probably about 70% of a native english speaker. In other words, enough for us to understand each other most of the time, although sometimes it's tricky, depending on what we're talking about. But no big issue.
Anyway we met a few times, and again, and long story short, now I guess she's my girlfriend. Good for me.
But women here don't seem to want to take us seriously. I'm not seeking their blessing but it seems to bother them. It's kind of intriguing actually.
At work, a woman jokingly asked me if I'd had a holiday romance, and I said actually yes, I guess I did, and now she's here and we're dating properly. She said great, congratulations, and so on. But when she asked me about her and I told her that she's 23 and from Thailand, she was like "oh".
The next day at lunch she was keen to ask me more questions but this time there were a few of her buddies there with her (all female). They took it in turns to ask me this and that, but I could sense that it wasn't just out of interest. It was done in a kind of mocking way. It amused me but after a while I just had to ask the obvious question, which was, why are you all so intrigued by this woman? In other words, why are you fixated on the fact that I'm seeing her?
The long and the short of it was that they had a problem with me, a 41 year old guy, dating a 23 year old woman. Not only that, but it bothered them that she was of a different culture. Of course, they put on a fake-polite veneer but it was very obvious.
In complete contrast, all my friends, all my male friends, are totally cool about it.
The thing is, those women at work have never shown any interest in me, and I have had no interest in them, although they're friendly enough.
I've also noticed that when we walk down the street I get weird looks from, surprise surprise, women. It happens a lot.
So why do those women, and by extension, women in general, meaning specifically women in Britain, and presumably the US too, have such an aversion to a 41 year old white guy dating a 23 year old asian woman?
That's a rhetorical question. I know why. But it would still be very interesting to hear some responses, which is why I'm asking.
Ok, long story short, I went on holiday to Thailand last year. I met a nice girl there, she's 23 now and I'm 41, so that's an 18 year age gap. We had a few dates and then I went back home to London. A couple of months later she came here too. It was nothing to do with me, she has relatives here and I knew she was going to be here sooner or later. She's now here more or less permanently, and she's working.
Her english I would say is probably about 70% of a native english speaker. In other words, enough for us to understand each other most of the time, although sometimes it's tricky, depending on what we're talking about. But no big issue.
Anyway we met a few times, and again, and long story short, now I guess she's my girlfriend. Good for me.
But women here don't seem to want to take us seriously. I'm not seeking their blessing but it seems to bother them. It's kind of intriguing actually.
At work, a woman jokingly asked me if I'd had a holiday romance, and I said actually yes, I guess I did, and now she's here and we're dating properly. She said great, congratulations, and so on. But when she asked me about her and I told her that she's 23 and from Thailand, she was like "oh".
The next day at lunch she was keen to ask me more questions but this time there were a few of her buddies there with her (all female). They took it in turns to ask me this and that, but I could sense that it wasn't just out of interest. It was done in a kind of mocking way. It amused me but after a while I just had to ask the obvious question, which was, why are you all so intrigued by this woman? In other words, why are you fixated on the fact that I'm seeing her?
The long and the short of it was that they had a problem with me, a 41 year old guy, dating a 23 year old woman. Not only that, but it bothered them that she was of a different culture. Of course, they put on a fake-polite veneer but it was very obvious.
In complete contrast, all my friends, all my male friends, are totally cool about it.
The thing is, those women at work have never shown any interest in me, and I have had no interest in them, although they're friendly enough.
I've also noticed that when we walk down the street I get weird looks from, surprise surprise, women. It happens a lot.
So why do those women, and by extension, women in general, meaning specifically women in Britain, and presumably the US too, have such an aversion to a 41 year old white guy dating a 23 year old asian woman?
That's a rhetorical question. I know why. But it would still be very interesting to hear some responses, which is why I'm asking.
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