I love these articles. So 3 researchers conducted case studies on 4 women ranging in ages from 24-51. You heard me right. This is based on a HUGE group of.....wait for it.....FOUR women. Okay so I don't agree with the sample size....let's look at the 3 reasons...
1. Lack of quality time.
Apparently all 4 women complained that they didn't get enough quality time with their husbands and they voiced this issue but still always felt like a lower priority to their husbands.
2. Inability to resolve conflict.
The couples couldn't communicate and issues were left unresolved.
3. Lack of attention
The women didn't get enough intimacy in their marriages than what they wanted.
I love the summary, now bear in mind the 24 year old started cheating 7 months into her marriage.
"According to the researchers, none of the women actively sought out affairs. As time went on, however, they grew more frustrated in their marriages and the partner they cheated with became more desirable. When the opportunity arose, there was less hesitation to stray.
Of course, every marriage is different, but the authors of the study note that these specific insights into cheating could help people and professionals identify early warning signs in relationships and work toward fixing them. "
3 Signs Your Wife Will Cheat On You
The interesting thing to this "study" is it discusses the flaws in the marriage. IE it was the husband's fault too. Now the 3 reasons mentioned are very important in a marriage. A husband needs to have quality time and intimacy with his wife. A couple needs to be able to communicate. But there are countless marriages that have those 3 flaws where the people don't cheat.
I get tired of these "studies". There is nothing truly answered. What was it within these 4 women that allowed the choice to be made, versus the countless other people who make other choices? THAT, to me, would be the most important question to answer. Where is the personal accountability? How long did these issues go on for? Was there any monitoring done in the house to see if the issues were truly legitimate or if the WS is rewriting marital history to justify the cheating? I've always found it amazing that all of these studies are done through interviewing. They can't say "these are the reasons" they can only say "these are the justifications and some justifications are true and some are enhanced".
1. Lack of quality time.
Apparently all 4 women complained that they didn't get enough quality time with their husbands and they voiced this issue but still always felt like a lower priority to their husbands.
2. Inability to resolve conflict.
The couples couldn't communicate and issues were left unresolved.
3. Lack of attention
The women didn't get enough intimacy in their marriages than what they wanted.
I love the summary, now bear in mind the 24 year old started cheating 7 months into her marriage.
"According to the researchers, none of the women actively sought out affairs. As time went on, however, they grew more frustrated in their marriages and the partner they cheated with became more desirable. When the opportunity arose, there was less hesitation to stray.
Of course, every marriage is different, but the authors of the study note that these specific insights into cheating could help people and professionals identify early warning signs in relationships and work toward fixing them. "
3 Signs Your Wife Will Cheat On You
The interesting thing to this "study" is it discusses the flaws in the marriage. IE it was the husband's fault too. Now the 3 reasons mentioned are very important in a marriage. A husband needs to have quality time and intimacy with his wife. A couple needs to be able to communicate. But there are countless marriages that have those 3 flaws where the people don't cheat.
I get tired of these "studies". There is nothing truly answered. What was it within these 4 women that allowed the choice to be made, versus the countless other people who make other choices? THAT, to me, would be the most important question to answer. Where is the personal accountability? How long did these issues go on for? Was there any monitoring done in the house to see if the issues were truly legitimate or if the WS is rewriting marital history to justify the cheating? I've always found it amazing that all of these studies are done through interviewing. They can't say "these are the reasons" they can only say "these are the justifications and some justifications are true and some are enhanced".
Put the internet to work for you.
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