My boyfriend of 3 yeas has been making me feel miserable and unwanted for a while. It seems like he's just stopped putting any effort into the relationship.
He never makes plans to do anything with me - on the rare occasion that we do go out it has to be planned by me. When I go to visit him at his flat, he spends most of his time on the computer and makes me feel I'm distacting him if I try to initiate a conversation, but if I decide to leave he gets upset and tells me he needs me there.
He never shoes any kind of affection. I've tried over and over again to get him to say something nice and romantic, but he just won't do it. I complement him on how gorgeous his eyes are and how he smells good and is really good looking etc etc but he never says anything back.
He is completely emotionally unavailable. He doen't like talking about difficult things because he feels uncomfortable and doesn't know what to say. If soemthing happens to upset me and I need someone to talk to, I know there is no point in going to hime, because in the past when I've asked him if I could talk about something thats been bothering me, he just statred at me blankly and said he didn't feel like it.
I have told him several times how he's making me feel, and every time he says he'll do better and try being less selfish, but nothing ever changes. We've boken up twice before over this but ended up back together because he promised me he would work hard on our relationship, but it feels like I'm the one who makes all the compromises and I'm the only one trying to keep the relationship together.
I feel like I should end it and not give him another chance; but at the same time I feel like I should give it more time because he can be a great boyfriend when he puts the effort in. :( What do you guys think?
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