My husband had an EA 6 months ago. I'm quite sure there is NC with the OW. At the time, he blamed me for not respecting him, neglecting him (I was building a business) and even went way back to the beginning of our marriage with complaints of my neglect and selfishness. He wanted to leave me.
We are in MC and he was in IC for awhile. I've encouraged him to continue IC.
Thing is, I was pretty crushed by the affair and his assertions that I had been a horrible person all this time - 18 years of marriage. He did not raise his dissatisfaction to me in a serious way until the affair.
I have been difficult to live with, crying A LOT and acting somewhat desperate. He now has decided to rent a room at the shore for one month. He says the situation at home is 'untenable'.
The MC wasn't working...I would just end up crying and trying to reason with him...the sessions felt like IC for him with me observing and him complaining about me and also talking about his childhood.
He says he does not think he wants a divorce but is not sure. He needs a break to see if 'he can miss me again'. He does not want to discuss our marriage although we are in counseling with a very good therapist who is a man. I don't think a separation is any way to work on a marriage. He is leaving tomorrow for a month. I think this will be a good break.
He does not show ANY affection toward me...no sex...does not want it. Totally not interested in me.
I am very confused.
We are in MC and he was in IC for awhile. I've encouraged him to continue IC.
Thing is, I was pretty crushed by the affair and his assertions that I had been a horrible person all this time - 18 years of marriage. He did not raise his dissatisfaction to me in a serious way until the affair.
I have been difficult to live with, crying A LOT and acting somewhat desperate. He now has decided to rent a room at the shore for one month. He says the situation at home is 'untenable'.
The MC wasn't working...I would just end up crying and trying to reason with him...the sessions felt like IC for him with me observing and him complaining about me and also talking about his childhood.
He says he does not think he wants a divorce but is not sure. He needs a break to see if 'he can miss me again'. He does not want to discuss our marriage although we are in counseling with a very good therapist who is a man. I don't think a separation is any way to work on a marriage. He is leaving tomorrow for a month. I think this will be a good break.
He does not show ANY affection toward me...no sex...does not want it. Totally not interested in me.
I am very confused.
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