Separation, wife says I am abandoning her

My previous two posts some up what I have been going through for over a year:

http://ift.tt/1h2wb7Z

http://ift.tt/1h2wb81

While we both made some efforts to fix the marriage, every fight put me a few steps back. I have no confidence that her personality and mine would mesh well.

So today, I said I am sorry that we are here. But somewhere in the last few months I lost the deeper connection with her and now I am not sure if I am in love with her (no love / intimacy over 8 months). I said I do not see a future for us. Then she said, I am abandoning her during her tough times (her trying to cut all ties with her parents) and that she would never do something like that. But most of my support activities go unnoticed. She holds a ton of anger, resentment, and spite towards several people that is not letting her be happy in life. I am sure she is going to be angry as hell at me for leaving her. But I just do not see a future.

Now I feel guilty and bad. I am not sure if I am being selfish or if she is trying to manipulate me. I still care about her but would be happy to support her as friend. But I do not think we can make each other happy in marriage.

I am torn.

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