I'm currently studying at Cambridge - I'm hating my course and finding it really difficult, and this, along with suffering mild depression has meant that I'm EXTREMELY far behind with my work - my tutors are contemplating whether to let me take my exams at all, and have said that in order to do so, I have to get a certain amount of work completed in the next few weeks. As it's exam term, I'm already under a huge amount of pressure.
However, I have one friend who is extremely needy and not very emotionally stable. She is very very sensitive and gets upset very easily, and she is extremely self-involved and is in need of constant attention. She comes to me all the time with her problems and worries (but ignores my own) . She sits in my room for hours on end, even if I tell her that I'm really busy with work, or if I'm just about to go out or have a shower. I have to set really tight schedules so that I can get enough work done, but she always disrupts them by turning up at my door upset about something and not leaving. I'm now so far behind with my work schedule that I'm going to have to read eight books and write three essays in the next two days.
The thing is, she has a history of issues (eating disorders, depression etc). She has been to a nurse about her problems but she still unloads everything on me, and as harsh as it sounds, I really do not have time at the moment. But she frequently comes to me crying about something, and when she's in floods of tears, it's impossible to tell her that I don't have time - often she comes to me with the kind of problem that I just can't ignore. I'm just at a complete loss as to what to do as she's really taking up all my time, even though she knows how serious my situation is, but I don't feel I can just 'ditch' her. Any ideas as to how I can get round this?
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