I am very confused, and in need of guidance, an opinion, help, or all of the above... Here is my story.
I have been married for 7 years (makes me think the 7 year itch). I am in my early 50's. My husband turned 50 this year, and is going through a "mid life" crisis. Last year he decided he needed to buy a motorcycle, which I although wasn't happy about, supported. I have known that something wasn't right, so many things actually. He hasn't touched me in 5 years. I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world, but I am by no means a dog. He says it's him. I snooped this morning at his emails while he was in the shower, and see an email to an 'old friend' of his. (I am not sure what their relationship has been before I came into the picture), saying he just wanted to drop a note, that he has been thinking about her, "at night too"... And this was very hurtful. He has also been email a woman he met through ebay, and even sent her a Valentine's day card (WHAT?). I know he has been talking to both through email, and I believe he has been seeing the "at night too" woma n behind my back. He tells me he loves me, he tells me I am his world, but I am devastate. To make matters worse, I away on business this week, and will not see him face to face. I know better than to try an confront him on the phone, as he can go and delete the emails I read (to both of these women) before I get home. I am a very type A personality, but he knew this about me before we married, I am very successful in my job and do earn a lot more than he does, and while I don't think he stays with me because of money I am not sure if he is reaching out to show his 'manhood' or what. I just don't know what to do. This is a first marriage for both of us. This past summer when he was out on his bike, he came home drunk, with the police following him down our driveway. After we (I) settled that, he told me he had a couple drinks at a Harley dealership, with one of the sales women... Now I am thinking he is out on his motorcycle hooking up with women, no, I have no proo f, just something in my gut (and my heart). I know I need to confront him, but I don't know what to say, or how to say this. It is killing me, and leaving me no energy to think of anything else. PLEASE, if you have any words of wisdom, I would appreciate it. I have never been in this position before, and don't know what to do...
I have been married for 7 years (makes me think the 7 year itch). I am in my early 50's. My husband turned 50 this year, and is going through a "mid life" crisis. Last year he decided he needed to buy a motorcycle, which I although wasn't happy about, supported. I have known that something wasn't right, so many things actually. He hasn't touched me in 5 years. I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world, but I am by no means a dog. He says it's him. I snooped this morning at his emails while he was in the shower, and see an email to an 'old friend' of his. (I am not sure what their relationship has been before I came into the picture), saying he just wanted to drop a note, that he has been thinking about her, "at night too"... And this was very hurtful. He has also been email a woman he met through ebay, and even sent her a Valentine's day card (WHAT?). I know he has been talking to both through email, and I believe he has been seeing the "at night too" woma n behind my back. He tells me he loves me, he tells me I am his world, but I am devastate. To make matters worse, I away on business this week, and will not see him face to face. I know better than to try an confront him on the phone, as he can go and delete the emails I read (to both of these women) before I get home. I am a very type A personality, but he knew this about me before we married, I am very successful in my job and do earn a lot more than he does, and while I don't think he stays with me because of money I am not sure if he is reaching out to show his 'manhood' or what. I just don't know what to do. This is a first marriage for both of us. This past summer when he was out on his bike, he came home drunk, with the police following him down our driveway. After we (I) settled that, he told me he had a couple drinks at a Harley dealership, with one of the sales women... Now I am thinking he is out on his motorcycle hooking up with women, no, I have no proo f, just something in my gut (and my heart). I know I need to confront him, but I don't know what to say, or how to say this. It is killing me, and leaving me no energy to think of anything else. PLEASE, if you have any words of wisdom, I would appreciate it. I have never been in this position before, and don't know what to do...
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