I have been in a relationship with a my girlfriend since I was 16, so 3 years as we are now both 19. We have been very devoted to each other ever since we got together, mainly due to us being pushed out of the same friendship group. We are a couple as well as best friends, but I feel this has changed this going to Uni this september.
We decided against going to the same uni and have started a long distance relationship. Initially things were fine, in fact I felt we got stronger as a couple. However I have grown tired of the whole process of being in a long distance relationship. The calls, text and FaceTimes/Skypes have become a obligation rather than an enjoyment.
I have also started to feel feelings for another girl. This girl is very similar to me and has a lot in common to me personality wise. We get on well to the extent that everyone during first term assumed that we had a 'thing' or fling together going on. Second term has been and gone and has been an absolute blast I've enjoyed having a strong set of friends which I and my girlfriend havent previously enjoyed. I haven't seen the girl I have fancied as much as I did during the first, but I feel that this is due to her hearing the rumours of us being really close to the point of having a 'thing'. She obviously respects the fact I have a girlfriend and has avoided me. However when on nights out and when I have seen her we have been close got on and really enjoyed ourselves.
I love my girlfriend to bits, but my uni crush has pretty much all the qualities I like and minus the faults of my current girlfriend. Should I end the relationship with my girlfriend for my crush as it does feel like we are just really close friends under the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend.
I have spoke with my dad and best friend and they have given me some really good advice, but I'm still puzzled what to do. What I have currently planned is to see how me and my girlfriend adapt during our break. I have told her that I feel that we need to work on our relationship and I'm not sure about being in a Long distance relationship anymore. We have 2 weeks before she goes back. If I am going to end things I will probably travel up to her uni and end it there where she has friends to fall back on, as she it totally dependent on me. TBH I love her to such an extent I would probably ask her for us to go on a break to see if these feelings for the other girl are real before breaking up for good. I know we would be civil we are both non-argumentative people
When I talk about feelings for this other girl I don't just insinuate that I want to have sex with my crush. I generally think she could be my girlfriend and we could be good together. But Do I give up what I know in my three year relationship for the unknown, although I know my crush likes me back that is a fact. Or do I stick my relationship that I am already in.
The main questions you guys could help me out with are:
Do I tell my crush I like her?
Should I remain in contact at all with my crush during the break?
Do I stick to my original plan or should I do something different?
Am I being completely moronic and should I just stay with my girlfriend?
At this current moment I want to have a break from my girlfriend to test my feelings for this crush to see if they are legit. I will update this as things unfold, as this site has been very helpful and friendly in the past.
We decided against going to the same uni and have started a long distance relationship. Initially things were fine, in fact I felt we got stronger as a couple. However I have grown tired of the whole process of being in a long distance relationship. The calls, text and FaceTimes/Skypes have become a obligation rather than an enjoyment.
I have also started to feel feelings for another girl. This girl is very similar to me and has a lot in common to me personality wise. We get on well to the extent that everyone during first term assumed that we had a 'thing' or fling together going on. Second term has been and gone and has been an absolute blast I've enjoyed having a strong set of friends which I and my girlfriend havent previously enjoyed. I haven't seen the girl I have fancied as much as I did during the first, but I feel that this is due to her hearing the rumours of us being really close to the point of having a 'thing'. She obviously respects the fact I have a girlfriend and has avoided me. However when on nights out and when I have seen her we have been close got on and really enjoyed ourselves.
I love my girlfriend to bits, but my uni crush has pretty much all the qualities I like and minus the faults of my current girlfriend. Should I end the relationship with my girlfriend for my crush as it does feel like we are just really close friends under the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend.
I have spoke with my dad and best friend and they have given me some really good advice, but I'm still puzzled what to do. What I have currently planned is to see how me and my girlfriend adapt during our break. I have told her that I feel that we need to work on our relationship and I'm not sure about being in a Long distance relationship anymore. We have 2 weeks before she goes back. If I am going to end things I will probably travel up to her uni and end it there where she has friends to fall back on, as she it totally dependent on me. TBH I love her to such an extent I would probably ask her for us to go on a break to see if these feelings for the other girl are real before breaking up for good. I know we would be civil we are both non-argumentative people
When I talk about feelings for this other girl I don't just insinuate that I want to have sex with my crush. I generally think she could be my girlfriend and we could be good together. But Do I give up what I know in my three year relationship for the unknown, although I know my crush likes me back that is a fact. Or do I stick my relationship that I am already in.
The main questions you guys could help me out with are:
Do I tell my crush I like her?
Should I remain in contact at all with my crush during the break?
Do I stick to my original plan or should I do something different?
Am I being completely moronic and should I just stay with my girlfriend?
At this current moment I want to have a break from my girlfriend to test my feelings for this crush to see if they are legit. I will update this as things unfold, as this site has been very helpful and friendly in the past.
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