When we first met he was very keen & although I liked him I'll admit it made me wary. Two months after we started dating he told me he loved me and seemed sincere. Said he had never met anyone he felt this way about, and felt like he was free to express himself like never before. Sadly my grandfather (who was like a dad after my parents split when I was young) was diagnosed with cancer around this time and wasn't sure that being in a relationship would be fair to him. We had a big talk and he insisted he'd support me through it - 'When things get tough I'll be your haven.' So I agreed.
Turns out he was mainly supportive throughout the whole thing and had been planning to move abroad before he met me. He said he'd now decided to stay and as I had always wanted to travel, I said I'd go away with him in a year's time once everything had settled. Having that wonderful future plan in mind really helped both of us as well as a few nice holidays to offer a bit of relaxation during a traumatic time. Then my bf was there for me when my grandad passed.
But 3 weeks later things changed. He flipped one night, saying for the past year everything had been about me & began pinning really inconsequential things on me (like forgetting to do dishes and 'not being nice enough' to a cashier) - we carried on regardless but I was shaken. Now we really ramped up planning for going abroad and he said we should move in together very soon as a trial period before doing it for real abroad (because living together could be 'really stressful'). I said I felt it was better to let things settle in my life first, but was willing around Autumn time. He said 'It sounds like you want to break up.' :S
Over the past month he became increasingly nitpicky about my character (so hurtful) and started talking about us being 'incompatible' - I was honestly blown away. Last week he told me he thought I was a bit depressed & that maybe I should speak to someone. I went to the doctor who gave me advice on how I could start working on things and getting my life back together again. I felt more positive about this, chatted to my boyfriend about it ...and later on he dumped me. Said he'd always been 'the shoulder' for people in his life growing up and couldn't do it again/anymore. He sobbed and sobbed as I was leaving. Just a month ago this guy was writing me love letters and I felt closer to him than ever. This hurts. A lot. What happened? I feel totally abandoned by him.
Turns out he was mainly supportive throughout the whole thing and had been planning to move abroad before he met me. He said he'd now decided to stay and as I had always wanted to travel, I said I'd go away with him in a year's time once everything had settled. Having that wonderful future plan in mind really helped both of us as well as a few nice holidays to offer a bit of relaxation during a traumatic time. Then my bf was there for me when my grandad passed.
But 3 weeks later things changed. He flipped one night, saying for the past year everything had been about me & began pinning really inconsequential things on me (like forgetting to do dishes and 'not being nice enough' to a cashier) - we carried on regardless but I was shaken. Now we really ramped up planning for going abroad and he said we should move in together very soon as a trial period before doing it for real abroad (because living together could be 'really stressful'). I said I felt it was better to let things settle in my life first, but was willing around Autumn time. He said 'It sounds like you want to break up.' :S
Over the past month he became increasingly nitpicky about my character (so hurtful) and started talking about us being 'incompatible' - I was honestly blown away. Last week he told me he thought I was a bit depressed & that maybe I should speak to someone. I went to the doctor who gave me advice on how I could start working on things and getting my life back together again. I felt more positive about this, chatted to my boyfriend about it ...and later on he dumped me. Said he'd always been 'the shoulder' for people in his life growing up and couldn't do it again/anymore. He sobbed and sobbed as I was leaving. Just a month ago this guy was writing me love letters and I felt closer to him than ever. This hurts. A lot. What happened? I feel totally abandoned by him.
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