Hi, I'm a female uni student and have a crush on this guy I met quite recently.
We had a one night stand. A lot of my friends think I "think like a guy" so opinions from guys would also be very much appreciated :)
When I first met him we chatted briefly and became facebook friends but we're not good friends or anything, we just say hi when we walk past each other. I started to develop this feeling towards him, and he had told me that he's graduating this year and working outside the city so I was a bit disappointed and thought there's not much point... but I was thinking of ways to talk to him more.
There was an event going on at the union one night which I went with my friends knowing that this guy was going to be there, so after having a few drinks I went up to him to speak to him a few times and also spoke to his friends. We were all pretty drunk by then but I ended up sitting next to him with his arm around me, and he started telling me about this girl (I think he mentioned something like fwb) who's interested in him but he didn't want anything serious since he's leaving this year. I asked if he had a gf and he said no. We ended up having sex somewhere in the building, and well, is was really quick and I don't think he cared about satisfying me and whatever, but I didn't really care because guys can be naturally horny and girls are harder to please (or at least I am) and he did make it clear that he wasn't looking for anything serious (in hindsight maybe he sort of knew I was interested and made that story up? I might have made it too obvious and untactful).
Having sex has no effect on my feelings towards a guy (we were emotionally distant, when he was coming onto me I didn't really feel any strong feelings and wasn't even turned on but I was drunk and thought whatever). The next morning the feelings towards him was still the same, I do have a crush on him and I remembered every detail but it was as if it never happened. He's not texted me or anything but that was sort of expected. I'm not sure if he's a player (he didn't have a condom on him - he said he should have had one but it's not something he carries around) but he is very attractive and gets lots of attention from pretty girls judging from fb photos.
I haven't had this feeling for about 5 years and it feels a little weird/special for me (I have had fwb relationships and it was usually the guy who fell for me (a couple of them leading to proper relationships) and I've been asked out a lot by really nice guys but I found it hard to fancy anyone...) which is why I thought MAYBE if I suggested fwb would he say yes, and then I get to see him more often... there is a danger of me falling for him even more but that's never happened before, just that I don't really feel like missing this chance. I mean if he says no that's fair enough since he doesn't want anything committed and if he does think I have feelings/might develop feelings for him he might be reluctant.
What do you think? Thanks in advance!
We had a one night stand. A lot of my friends think I "think like a guy" so opinions from guys would also be very much appreciated :)
When I first met him we chatted briefly and became facebook friends but we're not good friends or anything, we just say hi when we walk past each other. I started to develop this feeling towards him, and he had told me that he's graduating this year and working outside the city so I was a bit disappointed and thought there's not much point... but I was thinking of ways to talk to him more.
There was an event going on at the union one night which I went with my friends knowing that this guy was going to be there, so after having a few drinks I went up to him to speak to him a few times and also spoke to his friends. We were all pretty drunk by then but I ended up sitting next to him with his arm around me, and he started telling me about this girl (I think he mentioned something like fwb) who's interested in him but he didn't want anything serious since he's leaving this year. I asked if he had a gf and he said no. We ended up having sex somewhere in the building, and well, is was really quick and I don't think he cared about satisfying me and whatever, but I didn't really care because guys can be naturally horny and girls are harder to please (or at least I am) and he did make it clear that he wasn't looking for anything serious (in hindsight maybe he sort of knew I was interested and made that story up? I might have made it too obvious and untactful).
Having sex has no effect on my feelings towards a guy (we were emotionally distant, when he was coming onto me I didn't really feel any strong feelings and wasn't even turned on but I was drunk and thought whatever). The next morning the feelings towards him was still the same, I do have a crush on him and I remembered every detail but it was as if it never happened. He's not texted me or anything but that was sort of expected. I'm not sure if he's a player (he didn't have a condom on him - he said he should have had one but it's not something he carries around) but he is very attractive and gets lots of attention from pretty girls judging from fb photos.
I haven't had this feeling for about 5 years and it feels a little weird/special for me (I have had fwb relationships and it was usually the guy who fell for me (a couple of them leading to proper relationships) and I've been asked out a lot by really nice guys but I found it hard to fancy anyone...) which is why I thought MAYBE if I suggested fwb would he say yes, and then I get to see him more often... there is a danger of me falling for him even more but that's never happened before, just that I don't really feel like missing this chance. I mean if he says no that's fair enough since he doesn't want anything committed and if he does think I have feelings/might develop feelings for him he might be reluctant.
What do you think? Thanks in advance!
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