I canceled the last thread on this topic because I missed out a lot of important information. This is an update.
I have always held to the belief that it's wrong for a married woman (or man) to go out drinking with their friends. I believe in gut instinct. It is my personal belief that your instinct is God speaking to you. The human brain can be manipulated, but you cannot manipulate the conscience. There are certain things we know to be true, instinctively.
If a man, who loves his wife, disagrees with her going out drinking, he will no doubt be labelled insecure and controlling. This is a bullying tactic that is used to silence men who are following their instincts. These bullying tactics are also used in TV talk shows and in sitcoms. You may call it psychological warfare. It's reframing people's minds to think a certain way.
A married man is perfectly justified in feeling apprehensive about his wife going clubbing. It's not about trust. That's a myth. It's about respect and responsibility. Good people can still do bad things when they are tempted. His wife is going into an environment where single men are going to be hitting on her. There is no guarantee that she won't be overcome by temptation. How often have you heard people say, "It was a drunken mistake."? It's normal for a loving husband to want to protect his wife from vultures. To label him as insecure and controlling is cruel and despicable.
If a married man wanted to go clubbing in Las Vegas with his friends, his wife would be justified in disagreeing. Her husband might not have the intention of cheating, but it's not about trust, it's about respect. He is still going into a club where he will be surrounded by half naked women, and temptation may very well overcome him.
It is my personal belief that there is a war on marriage and family. I believe married couples are too easily manipulated by the media and by friends and family. Most of these attacks are aimed at women: "Can a woman really love a man if she earns more than him"? Do children really need their fathers? Is it shameful for a woman to depend on a man? Is flirting with other people healthy for your marriage?"
It's just constant propaganda manipulating people's minds. But I would like to hear your opinions?
Thanks
I have always held to the belief that it's wrong for a married woman (or man) to go out drinking with their friends. I believe in gut instinct. It is my personal belief that your instinct is God speaking to you. The human brain can be manipulated, but you cannot manipulate the conscience. There are certain things we know to be true, instinctively.
If a man, who loves his wife, disagrees with her going out drinking, he will no doubt be labelled insecure and controlling. This is a bullying tactic that is used to silence men who are following their instincts. These bullying tactics are also used in TV talk shows and in sitcoms. You may call it psychological warfare. It's reframing people's minds to think a certain way.
A married man is perfectly justified in feeling apprehensive about his wife going clubbing. It's not about trust. That's a myth. It's about respect and responsibility. Good people can still do bad things when they are tempted. His wife is going into an environment where single men are going to be hitting on her. There is no guarantee that she won't be overcome by temptation. How often have you heard people say, "It was a drunken mistake."? It's normal for a loving husband to want to protect his wife from vultures. To label him as insecure and controlling is cruel and despicable.
If a married man wanted to go clubbing in Las Vegas with his friends, his wife would be justified in disagreeing. Her husband might not have the intention of cheating, but it's not about trust, it's about respect. He is still going into a club where he will be surrounded by half naked women, and temptation may very well overcome him.
It is my personal belief that there is a war on marriage and family. I believe married couples are too easily manipulated by the media and by friends and family. Most of these attacks are aimed at women: "Can a woman really love a man if she earns more than him"? Do children really need their fathers? Is it shameful for a woman to depend on a man? Is flirting with other people healthy for your marriage?"
It's just constant propaganda manipulating people's minds. But I would like to hear your opinions?
Thanks
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