How much anger can/should the BS have, and for how long?

..and anyone NOT think it is OK to express anger to the WS?

so this is an opinion/survey type thread (not a poll though).

I think that BS anger is:

-- justified (very few exceptions)
-- appropriate to express to WS
-- should be expressed in relation the magnitude of pain inflicted on the BS. i.e. short of violence it would be hard for me to conceive of any expressions of anger that would be inappropriate.............though probably out of range of kids

-- constructive in many cases. regardless of eventual D or R I think it underscores to WS in no uncertain terms what the BS thinks of what the WS did.......and in some cases, what the BS now thinks of the WS. I think it can also motivate more decisive action by the BS

-- probably problematic if it burns too hot for too long. i.e. a problem for the BS him/herself. But I also think there is nothing wrong with the BS permanently losing all respect for the WS - regardless of whether the WS is "...still the kids' mother/father." And I also think that, in somes cases (cases I've read on here), the WS infidelity is flat out UNforgivable.


what do you think?

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