Thoughts - Suggestions - Anything!

So my husband over the past 2 years or so makes a pretty hurtful comment and I need some thoughts on what it exactly means. Our sex life is pretty much 1-3 times a month which I am in my early 30's (he in his early 40's) and that just isn't enough. We don't have children either so there is no excuse. I feel we should be around 3 times a week!! (we do have lots of marriage issues I will add that we are trying to work through but at the same time I don't agree with the comment he makes) The nicer comment he says: "you just lay there most of the time and are not that into it." :confused::confused::confused: Really??? What does that mean???!! We have used and have numerous toys, gels, positions, etc. Different places throughout the house. I even suggested (cause I know he watches porn) that we can watch that and follow what they do. He says he isn't comfortable with that part - which I was like ok -- that is a little odd but I respect that. I am lost for what else I can do. I recently have asked him what can I do to make it better - how would you like to spice it up? His response "I don't know". Wow - ok ..... :( The only thing I can think of is that I don't initiate enough. But I don't think the comment he has made has anything to do with who initiates it -- would it?!?!! I really really feel he isn't into me, could he be denying he isn't attracted to me? -- I know he says he loves me but you also don't say means things to someone you love.

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