still trying to hurt me

My ex is still trying to hurt me. She ended the relationship. Is was long term (15+ years) and kids are invovled. She has been very hurtful even though ive given everthing she wants. Ive tried to be the nice guy but everytime I communicate with her something gets twisted. I pour over ever text I send her to make sure it cant be taken wrong and it always does. Im exhausted. I still care about her even though I dont like who she has become or who I am with her so it hurts tremendously when she goes on the attack. she has a new boyfriend and brought him by when dropping off the child I have custody of after i told her i couldnt be in contact with her.I know her face well enough that she was waiting to see me hurt. If she wanted the split and has moved on why does she still want to hurt me? I know im giving her the power to hurt me and all of that but it doesnt change things. She could hate me and I would accept it but the constant need to let me kno w and because most of Iit isnt based on the truth. Ive spent half my life loving this person and would never hurt her intentionally. I dont know how to cope and im getting consumed by it. Any advice would help.

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