Is this how an affair happens?

So for people who have had affairs , you weren't getting something from your spouse , emotionally , sexually and rather than try to figure it out with your husband or wife you went elsewhere? IS the reason for having an affair really that different for a man and a woman ? I was always under the impression that woman have affairs for emotional reason and men have them for sexual reasons. But I guess its never a black and white thing. So I assume when someone's needs aren't being met at some point they get those needs met from someone else and it quickly evolves into an EA and then quickly into a PA? my question is this - Why don't you have some dignity and respect and talk to your husband or wife? Why not address the issues that are forcing you to betray your marriage with your spouse ? Why be so selfish , why do people so quickly confuse lust and love ? Why is it so difficult for people to communicate their thoughts and feelings ? Why do people remain in relationships they don't want to be in , just because they are terrified of being alone , or just because of the children. I cant ever fathom betraying the person I loved because of my own inability to communicate. if you aren't happy with someone , try to get happy before you look elsewhere.

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