Emotional/physical abuse

Has this topic been discussed on this thread? I was curious if any other women or men have dealt with emotional, verbal or physical abuse throughout their marriage and while going through the process of splitting. Almost two months ago, my husband declared he wanted a divorce. I was truly devastated at the thought of him leaving me and our marriage. However, as I had time to reflect on the past 3 years of our marriage and with the help of counseling, I realized that I wasn't exactly living in a blissful state. My husband has extreme anger management issues, not to mention he is a "blamer" and needs to be in control of everything in our marriage. The past 7 weeks, I have tried to co-habitate with my husband as best as I can. He goes from moments of wanting to be the loving husband to looking at me with such hatred. This is not only confusing but so emotionally draining. We got into an argument on Sunday evening and my husband threw the Ipad at my face which caused a huge swollen mess and now it is completely bruised over. This isn't the first time he has been physical with me, unfortunately. This time, I decided to call the police. I asked that the police not arrest my husband and not charge with him a crime, but to please talk to him about his anger issues. I had hoped this would be a wake up call to him that there are consequences for his actions and he needs to get his emotions under control. Not once in the past 7 weeks have I seen my husband sad, depressed or uneasy about our split. It is ALL anger. However, as he was the initiator in wanting the divorce (which he has yet to file), I cannot understand why he continues to show me hostility and anger in our home. Neither one of us can afford to move out right now and I finally got an appointment with a realtor to get our house on the market. I cannot continue to live with the fear of his anger. Unfortunately, after the police left, my husband became even more irate that I called the police on him and of course, blamed me for the fight in the first place and he did nothing wrong by throwing the Ipad at my face. My hope that he would realize his anger is out of control, fell on deaf ears. He is living in our guest bedroom and we have had no contact since Sunday evening. While I know I should be focusing on myself at this time, I am still so concerned about him. He isn't dealing with his decision to end our marriage very well, in my opinion. Otherwise, why would he continue to hold such resentment and anger towards me? I had hoped to gain some strength and wisdom from others on this forum, who have gone through the same situations in their marriage.

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