7 Months Pregnant ... Facing Separation

After trying to employ some of the techniques I've found on Divorce Busters (unsuccessfully I admit) I am finally joining this site. I tried to join Divorce Busters website but quite frankly their moderation system is very very annoying Anyway, my situation very briefly, I am 7 moms pregnant with our first child. We have been together for 8 years, married for 6.5. I moved out of the US to Canada to be with him. We've had our share of ups and downs but our arguments are typically always the same --- he is inattentive, cold, and harsh; I am emotional, somewhat needy, and hot. It's funny bc the thing that made me fall for him was his overly hot pursuit of me when we first met (I was dating someone else). The last two years have been the worst for us. I discovered an EA he was having with his ex about 18 months ago (their friendship being a source of our issues apparently rightfully so). They had this EA at a time when we were unofficially separated (I moved into our condo when I became available for possession, he chose to stay at his moms where we lived while the condo was being built). Don't want to harp on that too much but suffice it to say I have intense trust issues that contribute to my clinginess. He is done with her and I have no reason to believe she is the current source of his issues. Anyway, we got pregnant when he came back to me after a few months and lost that baby. That was difficult for both of us and we almost cracked again under that strain. Now I am pregnant again and for the past two months he has been pulling away. He finally admitted he was scared of losing some independence with the baby and wanted to spend time with his friends before the birth. But he also said some pretty nasty things when prodded ( revolving around all of the thing he dislikes about me). I had to force this conversation by the way because he wouldn't talk to me, stopped being intimate in any way and spent all of his free time at work and with friends. Well he said he's not happy and that he doesn't see a future for us. He said even if we work it out it would just be temporary and eventually we will break up but it will be harder for our son. Although sometimes he tells me just to give him time and wait it out until the baby arrives, then he'll spend more time at home?? I a ctually don't know what it is he wants. I have thought of walking away but I'm also in a difficult position. I am pregnant and despite everything I want our family to work. I've done some things but hard to employ DB techniques when you're attending parental classes and shopping for baby furniture "together". I'm confused and don't know what to do. I tried to do some of that 180 stuff but it is hurting my soul and I feel like a real doormat. But then when I go back into normal argument mode he uses that against me. I guess the best thing would be to grin and bear it for a little while until the baby is born and I can be more stable and then leave him. It would financially burdensome for both of us to be apart but I really feel like a piece of sh*t right now bc of the way he treats me. And ultimately I don't trust him. Every 18 months he is leaving me. Who does that? Who treats his 7 month old pregnant wife like this? If he can do this to me now he has no regard for me and he will be able to do it anytime in the future. This will now be the second time he left me, though first time was to pursue his "friendship" (behind my back until I caught him I might add) and this time it's emotional abandonment due to the fact that he is not "happy". I don't deserve this!!! :confused:

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