The Divorce of Buddyl33

Well after 6 years together, 5 years of marriage, and 1 child together my wife initiated the divorce process today. So I thought I would start a thread in here for if/when I needed support or just an ear(s) to vent to. She's very adament about not using attorneys. However she's also very adament about her getting primary custody of our son and me only getting him 2days/2 nights +1 evening a week, with the 2days/nights being 100% based around her work schedule. also alternating holidays. She wants none to very little of our physical assets (only the items that are her personal items as well as things she came into the marriage with, as well has her car). She also understands that half of our debt obligations will become hers and that she will need to secure them so they are no longer in my name. Finally she's also willing to accept less than what the state of Kansas would order for child support if she feels it is unfair and impacts my ability to live and support our son. I'm really torn on the attorney thing. I know I want to be able to at the very least consult with one through this process because I don't feel I can negotiate fairly and successfully without knowing what I have a right to and what my worst case/best case scenario is. I have no desire to be spiteful to her or impact her ability to provide for herself or our son in any way. The only contested item in our divorce right now from initial discussions is custody arrangements. I stated above what she wants. I want 2-3days/nights a week, every other weekend, and alternating holidays. She laughed at that and said no way. Our son is 4 this month and still in the clinging to mommy stage, so that's her justification on why he such be with her so much and why she won't give up time with him. I feel he should be with both of us as equally as possible because I am home 2 days and 7 nights a week (I work a day job 40 hrs a week. She is home 5 days and 5 nights a week, as she works overnight 2 nights a week. I do know from being separated before that I will wind up with our son more than the custody agreement. She will want to use me as a sitter so she can do the things she wants to do and I will happily oblige because my son is the most important thing in the world to me. Just frustrated and trying to decide how to handle things. Thanks for listening

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