I'm working on me-- Support Thread

So many people have willingly shared such personal information, and helped so many others on here. Not just specifically with marriage issues, but with support and encouragement to work on ourselves, our self esteem, and 'growing'. It's still a marriage issue, though. Once you 'grow' and you become more confident, etc you see changes in yourself. And quite often it becomes more 'clear' that your spouse also maybe has some similar issues. (After all, two similar people got together in the first place!) How does anyone else encourage their spouse to grow, learn along with you? Doesn't it always come to a point where you have changed, and you have to decide if you still want to be with them? I've been reading a lot about accepting people, just the way they are. And I've come to realise that it IS about wanting someone else to change. Once you "see it", you see it everywhere. Once you see your own flaws, you can easily spot that same behavior in your spouse. Yes, you can only change yourself. But the bare truth is... when it comes to your spouse, you really do want them to change. In a good way. From the bottom up. Tolerance, acceptance, boundaries, gaining self esteem, except we call it "teaching", not trying to change someone. So how do you define it? And how do you encourage the "good change?" And no, I can't find any books on this! LOL

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