My wife and my family clash!

I and my wife have been married for almost two years now. All has been well, reconcilable conflicts here and there just like any marriage. We are staying together in our place away from both our families, My wife is the only girl from her family side, she only has three brothers. On the other hand I have two older brothers and a younger sister. My brothers are married too, I and my brothers always had a close and very healthy relationship as far as our marriages are concerned. We could confide in each other and trust each other for advice and stuff. The ladies (our wives) on the other hand are not that close, but had always had a normal relationship. Generally I am a peaceable person, I love t keep harmony between friends and family. I believe it is most men's desire to keep his wife and his family united. Problem is, when ever I try to sort out issues between my wife and any family member from my side she says I'm taking their side and not hers. The thing is, She has her own drastic way of dealing with issues which I do not agree with which she expects me to support. Example: If somebody does something she doesn't approve of, even if it was a mistake, she will snap at them and tell them where to get off,in a very harsh manner there and there. Then I only come in to do damage control, whereas I would have preferred her telling me about it and I sort it out in a more constructive way. To cut the long story short, recently my wife had a conflict with one of my brother's wives, nothing major, but she decided not to talk to both of them again and my brothers too. She says they don't love her, so she is keeping her distance. Instead of wanting to reconcile, she has cut them all off. We were all together at home a few days ago, she wouldn't talk to any of them, she says I should support her on this and not take my families side. I understand the hurt but I believe every conflict can be resolved. She doesn't se it that way. I want to keep peace, how do I support the opposite? It was very awkward, didn't know how t act. Right now I don't even have da energy to confront this because she will say the same thing that "you are choosing your family over me", Is this really what I'm doing?, This is pushing us and the family apart, what should I do?

Put the internet to work for you. via Personal Recipe 2629979