Immature Spouse

Hi All, I am 24 and my husband is 26. I have two children from a previous marriage, and we just had a baby seven weeks ago. I was a single mother for a few years, so I am use to the responsibility of taking care of a family. However, it seems like being married to him is like having a fourth child. First, he refuses to pick any type of a career. I told him that I do not mind being the only person working as long as he is working towards a career. For example, if he is taking college courses to learn a profession. However, he will not pick anything that is feasible. At first, he said he wanted to be a sports commentator :scratchhead: ... but that could be a little doable, I guess. Now, he wants to become an actor :confused: . . I'm trying to be supportive, but that is a little stupid to me. He says that he has to take risks in life, he doesn't want to think "what if." That is fine and everything, but we have three small children, now is definitely not the time to take risk. I have t ried talking to him about it, and communicating my viewpoint, but he just thinks I'm telling him that he is a loser. I try to point out that the odds of becoming an major actor at this point are pretty ridiculous. However, he states that he has seen documentaries on TV where other people have done it, like Vin Diesel or Robert De Niro :mad:. I understand that some people have beat the odds, but these are people that were exceptional or that got extremely lucky; that is why he can see them on TV. He thinks he has acting abilities, because he was good at it in High School, and he can make people laugh. Trying to be supportive, I told him to take a acting class at night to test it. He does not want to take acting classes, he just wants to go and try out for a role :rolleyes: . I told him he needs to be doing something productive, and he needs to be working. I do not believe that a man should just sit around at home, while his wife is working. He said if I get a good job, then we should be fine. He is also highly irresponsible. He is enrolled in college courses, but never does his homework, I have to help him so that He doesn't fail. He never had a driver's license up to the age of 26, I had to push him to get that done. He stays up late watching TV or playing video games, then sleeps in until 10:00 or 11:00. Then he wakes up and continues to watch TV. The only time he gets out the house is to go to the GYM, he is obsessed with looking good. He reminds me of a teenager perhaps, definitely not a grown man with a family. Aside from that, he is also disrespectful. He says things that are hurtful then acts like nothing has happened. Like last night, we had an argument about him wanting to act. He told me I kept saying the same things over and over, and that I needed to go in the room and stop talking. Then three hours later, he tries to come and have sex with me, that is stupid. Am I over reacting, or should I just move on? I feel like he is a complete idiot, I have lost almost all of my respect for him.

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