Need some advice...

Although, I know what the answer is. A little background. I'm not married, but may as well be. I hope it's ok that I'm here. I've been with my boyfriend for 6½ years. We have 2½ year old daughter together. There's a lot of stressful things going on in our lives right now... money, house, car and even the status of our relationship. He has been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and has panic attacks. He's a mess. He's taking medication and sees a counselor on a regular basis. I try to be as understanding as I can possibly be. I know he has problems. This past year has been real stressful for us and we both basically just gave up on us. We just existed in the same house. About a month ago, I felt like something was off. Call it intuition or whatever you like. Although, I hated doing it, I started going through his phone and emails. I had found some emails different women. He would just talk to them about what was going on with him. I was surprised that he even mentioned me. From what I read, it never looked like he ever met any one of them. Although, he had exchanged pictures and personal details of our lives. From one of the conversations, he had mentioned that he wanted things to be better between us. He had discussed a lot of things. After reading these emails, I got to thinking that I was part of the problem in our relationship. So, I had to make a decision whether I wanted to continue in a relationship with or not. I decided that I wanted to try and make it work. We discussed this. And we were on the same page. He wanted to try and make things work. At the same time, I found the emails, he had also had text messages with a "massage" therapist. So, for about a month things have been better. I continued to monitor his phone and emails. In doing so, I had also found some emails to transsexual "women". He was trying to set up something to be with various ones. From what I can tell, he has never ended up seeing any. Something always came up that he was unable to keep any appointments. The emails has stopped for awhile to them. However, he started trying to set something up with one. He had emailed at least 4 different ones this past Friday. Looks like he had finally got a hook up scheduled. But, something came up that he was unable to keep the appointment. Told her so too. Now through all this, he confesses his love to me and that he has never cheated on me. And wants to spend his life with me. But, yet I know he is at least pursuing something. Eventually, I think, it will happen. I have been acting a little different since finding the latest emails. He has noticed and asked me why. I still haven't confronted him with what I know. I've given him every opportunity to tell me on his own. He is so straight faced through this all too. Do I just come out and tell him what I know? I've been documenting everything I've found. His behavior is all over the place. I know I deserve better. I just want to help him. I know his fetish has nothing to do with me. But, I will not allow him to have both. Either way.... to me.... it's cheating. Any advice? I'm sure there's a lot I've left out... just ask if there's something you would like me to explain. Thanks for reading.

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