| My husband of 25 years has just ended a 6 month affair (dd was 4 months ago). He says he ended it to work on our marriage but he's not acting like a man who wants that. We are yet to start counselling but he isn't showing remorse or even making any effort to help me to heal. He's still in the fog - more worried about OW harming herself after the breakup than my feelings. At this point I am only willing to go to counselling if I feel safe - and for me that means being in a position to walk away if that's what I want to do. I can't do that at the moment because our house has unfinished renovations, we only have one car and several debts. I want to sell the house and move somewhere I could afford to stay with our kids if things don't work out. I want to buy another car and pay off our debts. I don't want to have to face selling up and moving if my husband leaves me or if after counselling I want a divorce. My husband loves our house and doesn't want to sell it - but I feel like losing the house is part of the consequence of what he's done. Is planning for reconciliation to fail before you even start a good idea or bad? I'd love to hear your thoughts. | |||
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