HELP! Dealing with Separation

Let me give you a bit of background on myself before we continue. I'm a passive-aggressive person that has issues with communication and expressing my feelings. You can blame me for most of this but all I want is to see if anyone can relate and/or give any advice on how to cope with this issue. My wife and I have had a very rough relationship since the beginning; there was no abuse in our relationship. We've been married for 4 years (5 years this year) and it seems that all we've done has been to "try" to keep this relationship going. I'm not going to go into specifics on where I lived and specific events because I don't know if my wife (or her friends) frequent these sites. When we first married I lived in LOCATION A (LOC A) for all my life and she lived in LOCATION B (LOC B), she decided to move down to LOC A with me. Some days we would argue and the next day we would be okay, this went on for about 8 months. Near the end of the 8 months she got pregnant and home sick so she decided to move back to LOC B. She called this our separation period which lasted most of her pregnancy until I moved to LOC B to be with her and my newborn child. About a year ago she wanted to get a divorce because she was unhappy. We went to counseling, as individuals, but stopped after a few sessions. We recently argued about this and I told her that we both made the mistake to stop going if we really wanted this to work out. She came back and said that our counselor stated that I was very hard to read and that I didn't express myself (which I did, because I cared about our marriage). Again, our lived just seemed to go back to normal without any arguments; just a few minor ones here and there, but nothing major. Now here we are in the present day. She got fed up one day and told me to move out because she needed her space. So I respected that and I did so. I've been out of my house for almost a month and it seems like the hardest thing ever, even worse when we split up the first time. Her reasoning for this separation was because she is tired of trying and she is exhausted and has nothing left to give. She says that she doesn't even know me, that we have nothing in common /we're not compatible /we're two different people, that we have nothing to talk about and the only reason that we're together is because of our beautiful son. I will agree with her when she says that she doesn't know anything about me because I've never expressed my deepest feelings, ever. This I regret and I'm seeking counseling to find ways to cope with this and learn to overcome being judged when I do express myself. She says that we don't have anything in common but the way that I see it is that it doesn't matter what you have in common, it's how you deal with incompatibility. The two main things that we need are; that we both want our relationship to work and that we are both willing to make changes to continually improve our relationship. Most of these things have transpired because of my inability to communicate with her, which is why I said earlier that I'm willing to take the blame. I just want her to see that I'm trying and that I love her with all my heart. I've told her "If you love something so much, you need to learn to let it go. And if it is your decision to part ways then I will respect that." I'm willing to do anything in my power to keep this family together and to delay this ____ (I hate saying the "D" word…). I was so hurt one day that I told her "How much longer do I have to wait because this is hurting even more that it's hurting you. If you want to get a divorce, just do it now." This made her cry and she knows that I'm hurting. Like I've said many times, I'm willing to make this marriage work; even though my wife isn't willing to make an effort. I hate when she says this "It's a little too late…" maybe it's true but I'm trying to keep my head up and my heart strong. I will continue to fight for what I believe in. I don't know how else to deal with all of this depression, anxiety and stress. It's taking a toll on my spiritual and physical wellbeing. I've been on many forums and blogs on how to deal with separation and ways to cope. I found a forum that listed the "Ten Commandments" from a user by the name of "Synthetic" some of you may have heard of it. It contains "The 180" and "No More Mr. Nice Guy". I'll attach my word documents for reference.

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