So my gf and I were together for about 5 months, during which time we spent most of our time together, I got really involved with her family and we had an amazing holiday together. It got to be VERY intense with her talking of soulmates, family and future, even thinking that an abortion would be very difficult if accidental pregnancy should occur. She said similar things to her friends and was extremely complimentary to me, both face to face and via friends - perfect guy, really hot etc.
However, after 2 weeks of uni separation in Sept, she stopped texting for a week, then called it off when I visited, saying she had gone home with another guy but nothing had happened. She had been texting this guy all night also - looking over her shoulder I saw how flirtatious they were being and how she was being disparaging about me. Heartbreak obviously.
My conclusion is that, because our relationship was mostly based upon sex and probably surface attraction and because I am four years her senior, she just got carried away with feeling and lust - infatuation more than love.
What is affecting me is whether she got together with this other guy - they are now in a similarly intense relationship - because she preferred him - because he's better looking or some such - or whether it was just the uni environment, distance and lack of belief in the relationship which caused the infatuation to fade? And he was simply a temptation - she had told a friend during our relationship that she was afraid she would "make a mistake be not stay true" whilst away at a music festival. Also said that she was "terrified she would mess things up" with me whilst at uni, but really wanted things to work - again to a third party.
So what do you think? Was it a preference for him? Grass is greener? Couldn't resist temptation? Loss of infatuation? Just don't understand.
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