Has any one else found that their Wives respect them less when their Wives earn more? I'm not talking about situations where a Husband isn't trying to pull his weight, he might be doing his up most it just happens she earns more. I'm of the view that when your a team it shouldn't matter who earns more as long as your both doing your best.
In the over 10 years I've been with my wife there have been 2 periods totaling less then a year where she out earned me, the rest of the time I earned more then her often by double and at one point by 8 fold. Both times she earned more her level of respect for me dropped significantly.
The first time she got a promotion with a significant pay rise which meant she over took my salary by about $3000/year. I was happy for her and us as it meant we were doing better as a team but her level of respect for me dropped even though I was earning the exact same as before her promotion.
The second time she got a short term contract paying close to 6 figures/year while my base salary was about $20k/year less. I took all the over time I could get my hands on which closed the gap a little. Her respect for me dropped a lot and she accused me of not pulling my weight even though I was working more hours then she was and doing me best to get a higher paying job.
I don't understand this so I was curious if other people have experienced this and would love to here from wives who have found them selves thinking less of their husbands when they out earn them. I currently earn more then my Wife but she's up for a promotion and I'm finding my self hoping that if she get's it it pays less then I earn even if it's only by a couple of thousand dollars/year. Logically I know this is stupid.
In the over 10 years I've been with my wife there have been 2 periods totaling less then a year where she out earned me, the rest of the time I earned more then her often by double and at one point by 8 fold. Both times she earned more her level of respect for me dropped significantly.
The first time she got a promotion with a significant pay rise which meant she over took my salary by about $3000/year. I was happy for her and us as it meant we were doing better as a team but her level of respect for me dropped even though I was earning the exact same as before her promotion.
The second time she got a short term contract paying close to 6 figures/year while my base salary was about $20k/year less. I took all the over time I could get my hands on which closed the gap a little. Her respect for me dropped a lot and she accused me of not pulling my weight even though I was working more hours then she was and doing me best to get a higher paying job.
I don't understand this so I was curious if other people have experienced this and would love to here from wives who have found them selves thinking less of their husbands when they out earn them. I currently earn more then my Wife but she's up for a promotion and I'm finding my self hoping that if she get's it it pays less then I earn even if it's only by a couple of thousand dollars/year. Logically I know this is stupid.
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