Thanks Ms. EleGirl for following my struggling relationship since the beginning. I am very thankful to all your advice, noted and appreciated.
Thanks to those help out give advice to my original thread where I think of "marriage"; but after noted and taking in all the advice. I realize that 'marriage' is not suitable under my realtionship condition, so the best is going down the road of 'living together'.
To the men: the sentence in BOLD at the end of my post, may I get your viewpoints on this. It is offended if you were under his situation?
We are a couple who live in the same ghetto d-a-m-n neighborhood together.
As much as I am still in SHOCK that I'm getting freaky with my own neighbor; but it too late now to go back. The relationship already started, and he always want to live together, so eventually I'm gonna have to let him have it his ways.
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Answer Ms. EleGirl question,
Yes, my man pretty much out on the street, he slept on street before, shared place with his friends too.
He have lots of male buddies, so there always one dude who let him sleep over, sometimes he sleep at his mom place, but mostly he not.
Pretty much after the dead of his father, he can't even open himself to his own mother. And further worst, after the dead of his sister from drunk driving car accident, he no longer feel his "home" as complete anymore.
He once told me when he younger, him and his buddies run away from police cars before. So seem like he see alot of the street violence. They sleep on the street, and them share room together. (his younger days)
His dad was in and out of jail, so he was not much in the picture.
His mom was busy trying to get her life back together, so she didn't give him the full attention; so him growing up around the street was not a surprise to me.
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His past is the past. Let talk about his now situation. Maybe I can get some advice on what I should do.
Like right now, he sleep over his buddies place. Because me, this Asian GF of his refused to let him spend the night over.
I was protecting myself from not getting deeper into the 'emotional attachment' to him.
This big ghetto neighborhood have 2-3-4 bedoroms, but rent is cheap, so those live here are the one who does NOT make high income.
My apartment is 2 bedroom/2bathroom. I live alone with a litlte poddle dog.
So I pretty much have lots of free space, and 1 empty bedroom and batroom for him.
I am his girl, we are in serious committed relationship, so I have full trust in let this man live wtih me, BUT I was me selfish due to I don't want to get "emotional attachment" to him, so I keep on refused to let him stay over at night.
It is sad that I kick him out like 2am in the morning, and he have to go to his buddies place to crash for the night.
I don't want to do this anymore, so I think I'm going to let him live with me.
He doesn't have any stuff. All he have is his car, his clothes, few of his favorite books, a laptop he use to apply for jobs online, and his Cell phone which he use it for all communication.
He doesn't have any asset, he only have his job and his saving.
So with few stuff that he have, it is very easy for him to just move in with me, since we already in the same hood. At worst is I just kick him out, and he go back to his buddies place to sleep again lol.
Should I give this a try? He gonna have to help pay half of the rent. Rent here is cheap anyways, he is MORE than capable to help me with half.
It not about rent, it about me worried I'm getting deeper into this relationship. And when he live with me 24/7, my worst fear is I will become the 'baby mama' titltle.
Yes, we are in committed relationship, but given I have a 2 bedroom, can he sleep in one bedroom, and I sleep in one bedroom?
Or am I being unreasonable again? I told him he can move in, but I have NOT told him that I want him to have his OWN seperate bedroom.
His sex drive is higher than me, and I do try to satisfy him; but it just that I am NOT ready for a baby right now. We can't even face our own childhood emotions issue, let alone bring a baby to this world.
I think this going to be a good experience for us, to see if we compatible of married or not, as I don't think we ready for marriage.
So should I proceed and let him move in with me? And No, buy a house is NOT an option, we don't have that much money.
Thanks to those help out give advice to my original thread where I think of "marriage"; but after noted and taking in all the advice. I realize that 'marriage' is not suitable under my realtionship condition, so the best is going down the road of 'living together'.
To the men: the sentence in BOLD at the end of my post, may I get your viewpoints on this. It is offended if you were under his situation?
We are a couple who live in the same ghetto d-a-m-n neighborhood together.
As much as I am still in SHOCK that I'm getting freaky with my own neighbor; but it too late now to go back. The relationship already started, and he always want to live together, so eventually I'm gonna have to let him have it his ways.
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Answer Ms. EleGirl question,
Yes, my man pretty much out on the street, he slept on street before, shared place with his friends too.
He have lots of male buddies, so there always one dude who let him sleep over, sometimes he sleep at his mom place, but mostly he not.
Pretty much after the dead of his father, he can't even open himself to his own mother. And further worst, after the dead of his sister from drunk driving car accident, he no longer feel his "home" as complete anymore.
He once told me when he younger, him and his buddies run away from police cars before. So seem like he see alot of the street violence. They sleep on the street, and them share room together. (his younger days)
His dad was in and out of jail, so he was not much in the picture.
His mom was busy trying to get her life back together, so she didn't give him the full attention; so him growing up around the street was not a surprise to me.
-------------
His past is the past. Let talk about his now situation. Maybe I can get some advice on what I should do.
Like right now, he sleep over his buddies place. Because me, this Asian GF of his refused to let him spend the night over.
I was protecting myself from not getting deeper into the 'emotional attachment' to him.
This big ghetto neighborhood have 2-3-4 bedoroms, but rent is cheap, so those live here are the one who does NOT make high income.
My apartment is 2 bedroom/2bathroom. I live alone with a litlte poddle dog.
So I pretty much have lots of free space, and 1 empty bedroom and batroom for him.
I am his girl, we are in serious committed relationship, so I have full trust in let this man live wtih me, BUT I was me selfish due to I don't want to get "emotional attachment" to him, so I keep on refused to let him stay over at night.
It is sad that I kick him out like 2am in the morning, and he have to go to his buddies place to crash for the night.
I don't want to do this anymore, so I think I'm going to let him live with me.
He doesn't have any stuff. All he have is his car, his clothes, few of his favorite books, a laptop he use to apply for jobs online, and his Cell phone which he use it for all communication.
He doesn't have any asset, he only have his job and his saving.
So with few stuff that he have, it is very easy for him to just move in with me, since we already in the same hood. At worst is I just kick him out, and he go back to his buddies place to sleep again lol.
Should I give this a try? He gonna have to help pay half of the rent. Rent here is cheap anyways, he is MORE than capable to help me with half.
It not about rent, it about me worried I'm getting deeper into this relationship. And when he live with me 24/7, my worst fear is I will become the 'baby mama' titltle.
Yes, we are in committed relationship, but given I have a 2 bedroom, can he sleep in one bedroom, and I sleep in one bedroom?
Or am I being unreasonable again? I told him he can move in, but I have NOT told him that I want him to have his OWN seperate bedroom.
His sex drive is higher than me, and I do try to satisfy him; but it just that I am NOT ready for a baby right now. We can't even face our own childhood emotions issue, let alone bring a baby to this world.
I think this going to be a good experience for us, to see if we compatible of married or not, as I don't think we ready for marriage.
So should I proceed and let him move in with me? And No, buy a house is NOT an option, we don't have that much money.
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