So, I have quite a few body confidence issues - I'm like, size 18/20 overweight, and before last week I'd only slept with one person, drunk on a girls holiday, and afterwards I'd found out his friends had spent the week taking the piss out of me.
So, last Friday, I met up with someone on Tinder, and we slept together, and it was an entirely positive experience. I've honestly never felt so confident and comfortable in my body. We spoke about meeting up again that evening, but he ignored my snap-chats, and I later got a text saying 'you got the message babe?'. He told me he had no idea who'd sent it, but paranoia had set in already. On Saturday, under the influence of alcohol and a friend turned wingman, I invited him over. He sent pictures of his friends with captions like 'this guy will' etc, and when I was more frank, he basically said no. The thing with his friends pissed me off, because it made me feel like the butt of a joke, and I've been in that position before.
However, after midnight, he asked to come over, and spent the night. I feel its important to say that he initiated most of the stuff that we did, so I cant imagine that he didn't want to. We discussed some stuff and were both agreed on a ****-buddy relationship, although he mentioned that there was a girl he was sort of interested in. I questioned him about being attracted to me and he said 'some guys would judge me for it', and pretty much evaded the question of whether he was attracted to me, being as fat as I am.
So Monday, yesterday, I had a free house and asked him if he wanted to come over, to which he said 'Sorry, I'm really busy this week'. I obviously felt that initially sting of rejection, which just felt worse when I had another snap-chat of a friend, with something along the lines of 'he'll come over'. Feeling stung, I texted 'dude, not funny' which never got a response. Later, stupidly, I started feeling bad about it and apologised for being short, once again receiving no response
Basically, I'm torn between cutting it off now, if he's not really attracted to me and will just text me when he's drunk and his standards are lower. I think he's probably embarrassed because I'm fat and his friends may have taken the piss out of him for sleeping with me. Finally, have I ruined it for myself by being short with him
I honestly don't know what to think :(
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