There's a boy (B1) who's had a crush on me for years. He's asked me to the dance every year for the past four years, but luckily I've always had a conflict for the night of the dance (the last two years I specifically set up alternative plans for those nights so I'd have an excuse. Yes I know this was wrong and tantamount to leading him on by letting him think he had a chance for next year but I was just too scared to let him down). My friends think he's creepy, but he's perfectly nice and I like him fine - just not enough to go out with him. To complicate matters, we've known each other for years, I was one of only two people to show up to his birthday party last year (and I went purely because his mother seemed so desperate), our parents are friends (and his mother helped take care of me during a really stressful period), and he and I work closely together in a couple extracurricular activities.
So this year I was ready, not only with an excuse not to go to the dance but also to tell him that I was way too busy to even think about dating (which is completely true) and that any sort of romantic relationship was way down on my list of priorities. At the time, that seemed the ideal excuse because I truly am very busy and no one else was in the picture (I thought). The next day, another guy (B2) who I had only met a month before but really liked (I spent more time talking with him in 4 weeks than I had with B1 in 4 years) also asked me to the dance. Never in my wildest dreams would I have expected him to ask me. Again I said no because of the prior commitment, but when he invited me to a movie a few weeks later I said yes and now we're dating. He's just as busy as I am, but we're moving heaven and earth to squeeze in time to see each other.
I feel horribly guilty about doing for B2 what I told B1 I wouldn't do for anyone (that is, rearrange my schedule so I can see a boy). I'm not sure how much B1 knows about B2 - he knows we're close friends and he's heard my friends tease me about B2 but that was before we were officially dating. B1's just so nice and I don't want to hurt him but I also want to give him a chance to maybe find a new crush by prom - although I think part of my appeal is the fact that I actually talk to him unlike all the other girls. I don't want to bring up the topic again and double-reject him but I also want to make it perfectly clear that he doesn't stand a chance. My friends have no sympathy for him, so their advice is worthless. Do you think it'd hurt B1 more to talk to him privately and explain about B2 or simply mention repeatedly in his hearing what a great time B2 and I had on our date and hope he gets the hint?
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