walking on eggshells? would like a man's perspective, please.

Hi all....want to say that while I do love my husband, ....but most of the time I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Last nite we had a talk about me returning to work full time (I work 4 days per week and would like to return to work for the 5th day (Friday)).....I put together a spreadhsheet of daycares in the area. He confronted me last nite....told me that I don't have the salary to justify 5 days....and that it seems like I just "don't want to care foro ur son anymore..." it was awful.....absolutely awful......he said that he wants to give up his job (he makes 3 times my income) to stay home with our son because he just "doesnt' trust his son in my care..." I was crying....it was terrible..........about 2 weeks ago my son got sick after breakast at his daycare (we did not know it happened 4 times in 2 weeks)......when I came home, my husband saw some snacks (veggie stix, dry goods) that were in the cup holders that I clean out each week and he had a fit and told me I was the reason our son was getting sick...(I denied that).... I told him that the way he speaks to me is so direspectful.....and condescending and mean....that I feel like he just doesn't "like" me.....and that I want to go to couples therapy because I don't know WHAT will make him blow up at me or when! and that I'm anxious/nervous most of the time around him.....I also said that if he didn't want to go, I would go on my own. My friends/family/doctor told me I need help ASAP....because this situation is eroding my self-esteem. I just called to schedule a therapy appt...someone is calling me back. Any advice here?

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