Marriage of less than a year falling apart

Hello, I will try to describe my wife and my situation as succinctly as possible, but I admit I am poor at writing. Thank anyone in advance for any advice. For the record, I am a 28 year old man and she is a 26 year old woman. My wife and I have been married for less than a year. Recently she had a bit of a breakdown that stems from me not doing many things with her socially. I am a PhD student and during the semester I am very busy, and she has communicated these issues and I wanted to try to work on it over the summer. Summer is here and the things I have suggested we do are not in line with the things she wants to do. She went to a theme park without me(and with several of my colleagues who are also our friends) and has been going out with friends more, again without me. Over the ~3 years we've known each other, I have been avoiding social interaction and it has been continuously and gradually hurting her. She is at the point now where she expects that I do not go anywhere with her, and she doesn't have interest in me being there. There is a pretty clear breakdown in communication, and I learned that I can be very insensitive and uninterested and it hit me like a ton of bricks. She wants time to be alone, to spend her time with her friends, since the "fun" side of her is battling with the "settle down" side of her, since she has accepted that I will not do those fun things. The only thing that bothers me about that is that her friends have said to her that she should get a boyfriend, and this one (single) guy told her something to the effect of if one person in a marriage isn't happy then they should find something to make them happy(in another person) and not tell the spouse. This concerns me, but I am relieved that she was open about that communication with me, and when I asked about it she told me that they only said that because it might make her happy right now but that she isn't going to do that. She insists that she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me, and I have asked her many times to confirm that (mainly because I'm insecure). I also asked her if she plans to have a boyfriend, and she of course said no… Although she mentioned in the past how much it hurt her that I wasn't doing things with her, and she said it was a big deal, I wanted to fix it this summer, and I kindof thought I was. I have been walking home from my office(4 miles) everyday so I can prepare dinner for when she gets home. I have wanted to go to parks and on walks with her around the area to trails and what not, and we have been doing that. But I have been avoiding other social events, like the theme park, traveling around the area, and other things, that really meant a lot to her, and I have hurt her deeply. I want to be a better husband, and I want her to have a happy life with me. She told me that I can't change quickly, that it has to be slow. But I want this more than anything, I had a rough childhood, so I didn't really learn anything about proper communication and its coming back to bite me in the ass. I suggested marriage counseling, and she's completely not interested. I realize I have an issue here with social anxiety or something similar. People have commented in the past that its like pulling teeth trying to get me to do things, but when I do go out I am really fun to be around. I am going to start seeing a therapist at my university's mental health center next Friday, but for right now, I don't know what to do, I feel like she is emotionally checking out. Please Help.

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