Insanely confusing mixed signals!

9yrs ago I dated a guy and I fell head over heels in love with him. He was my first everything. His ex couldn't handle it and spread rumors and drama began. She and I would go back and forth yelling and threatening each other. I got sick of it.He played right into it and it just got ridiculous. He thought I was cheating, I thought he was cheating. And neither of us actually cheated. I now know this after 10yrs of talking with our mutual friends and connecting the dots. I couldn't believe it. I smacked him in the face and left him for cheating. When he didn't. I now had a new BF(NJ) and I'm not the kind of girl to leave one guy for another. I'm loyal. A couple months later NJ and I broke up. So my ex and I tried to get back together. He said to keep it secret for now so the drama wouldn't start. I said sure. The next day the whole school knew we'd slept together the previous night. HE told EVERYONE. So I said screw you, you lied to me and was done with it. He called me a few months later, drunk. Said that he called the wrong #. I knew he just wanted to talk to me but I ignored it because it was alcohol induced. 2yrs later me and NJ broke up again and I started talking to my ex. It seemed to being going alright. He was interested. I was interested. Then all of a sudden he's in love with one of the girls who instigated our breakup and bye-bye me. In 24hrs. I ran into him at a party and he was playing footsies with me under the table and I caught him staring at me several times. A couple years ago he was my reference for a job that saved my life. NJ and I broke up for the hundredth time. Same deal, started talking to my ex and it was all going good. Then my ex turns around and says "So wanna f*#%?" Like it was all he wanted. When I said no. He said "is it because I have a GF?".. I didn't even know he had one! Again bye-bye. Now it's 2 years after that and guess what. He lives in my apartment building. We've exchanged glances and made small talk in the elevator and he seems so depressed. I'm living here with my BF, who I've been on and off with since my ex and I broke up. And I have a 17 month old daughter. I'm not happy in my relationship and my ex knows. And I know he's not happy in his relationship with the older woman who keeps kicking him out for her baby-daddy. I mentioned to my ex the other day about how he posts on Facebook and I see it all. Maybe 8hrs later there's a picture of him, no shirt and a huge smile. I tell a mutual friend and she tells me that he's always loved me and wants to be with me. A while back another friend of ours told me that he said that I'm the one that got away. I'm SO confused. Does he really want to be with me? Or is he just a player who's feeding off my emotions?

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