| Hello all :) Just something that I have been pondering lately. Just some background info about me. I have lived in a very secluded village for most of my life in which there are hardly any other people who could be regarded as 'young'. As a result, I never went to parties or any other youthful social gatherings as such. However I recently moved to a town sixth form, and have been to my first parties etc. What I saw has kind of shocked me in a way. Coming from my admittedly rather sheltered background, I have always had the impression that to gain the affection of a lady and then subsequently end up in a 'relationship' with them, you were meant to get to them at first and then make slow, casual advances as time goes on. And when dates did start, they would be of a traditional kind e.g chats over coffee and going for nice walks. Sadly, I have never been in any kind of romantic relationship, which makes me wonder if such an approach is 'dead'. My recent insights into the behaviour of the local youth seem to support this conclusion. My friend for example walked into a party with the sole intention of 'pulling' (and many seem to view women as little more than sexual objects or targets on a ticklist), got drunk, 'got off' with a girl and they are now in a relationship. All this in the space of knowing the lady for one evening. I have tried for nearly 2 years to go for the gentlemanly approach and treat women with respect, but to no avail. Its just kind of frustrating when you see others who treat women like objects 'getting ahead', if you know what I mean. As a somewhat naive country boy, I am confused - is this how men are supposed to try and attract women nowadays? Sorry if I sound really idiotic, naive or snobby towards the whole thing. I have tried to be nice but it does not work it seems. I would feel really bad lwoering myself to such depths in order to find a partner, but it seems the only way. Thoughts people? Thanks! | |||
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Has the 'traditional' approach to dating died?
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