Frustrated and ready to blow up!!!

Ok, so this is my first time on this website because I wasn't sure where else to go. I've been married almost 6 months now, been together for almost 3 years. This is my first marriage and my husbands 2nd. He also has a pre-teen daughter. I guess I can say I saw problems starting when his ex moved back into town. I had never met her and wasn't completely sure what to expect from her. My husband, boyfriend at the time, warned me she was a little crazy...little did I know! When they moved back, they didn't have a place yet and so I agreed to let them stay at our place till they found one. Friends and family thought I was dumb for allowing it, but I did it for my boyfriend and his daughter's sake. What was only supposed to be 2 weeks turned into 2 months. The ex and I were civil with each other, but at the same time I couldn't wait for her to move out. She had a bad habit of leaving her dirty dishes in the sink for days on end, her cats were terrorizi ng our cats and destroying property, she lounged around like she owned the place and what I really disliked is that she badmouthed my boyfriend. I kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to start problems for him. We were already talking about getting married and I wanted to keep the peace. So the ex finally found her own place, but she was constantly calling my bf for every little thing. She needed help with one thing or another, so she'd ask him to go over and help or she'd keep him on the phone for a ridiculous amount of time. Half a year later, she decided she wanted to move to another place. But that place wasn't ready yet so she moved in again with us, which I really didn't want, but did it so my bf's daughter would have a place to stay. They were here for 2 weeks and again the ex was disrespectful and inconsiderate. Making messes and not cleaning up after herself. She got her new place and, of course, continued calling my bf every chance she got. I didn't think it wa s necessary for her to call and keep him on the phone for over an hour or more. I know there needs to be communication between the 2 about their daughter, but she doesn't need to be telling him all of her own business. About a year ago, things got bad between the ex and I. She accused me of something that I didn't do. She stopped talking to me completely and I believe is possibly fueling wrong thoughts in my step-daughters mind about me. It's to the point where the ex, for whatever reason, doesn't trust me to be alone with my step-daughter. I have always been respectful and considerate towards my step-daughter and would never say or do anything to hurt her or steer her in the wrong direction. Now, according to the ex, my step-daughter has issues with me. I, myself, don't really believe it. We often chat and joke when she's around. She approaches me for advice on clothes and makeup. To me, these aren't the actions of someone that dislikes me....unless I'm crazy. But I feel th is is causing everyone unneeded stress and unhappiness and I'm not sure how to address this all. I feel my husband should put his foot down and say enough is enough. The ex seems to think my husband owes her a lot for stuff that happened during their short marriage. I'm just tired of her still depending on him for almost everything. I'm tired of hearing that the ex thinks her daughter has issues with me. I'm starting to wonder if she's trying to cause problems on purpose for us. I just need some advice from someone that's been in a similar situation. I'm almost at my wit's end. We'd like to try and have a baby, but I'm having second thoughts. I don't want to bring a child into all this drama and have it affect her in the long run.

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