Wife constantly texting male co-worker - Advice?

First of all, I'd like to express how grateful I am that a forum such as this exists and for any members who help out. I don't know where to start, so I guess I'll just give some history and ramble. My wife and I are young. We're coming up on being married for two years. We've always loved each other dearly and I can tell she still loves me just as strongly as I love her. She is a very sincere person. We are complete opposites though. While she is very, VERY social, I'm diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. As such, I have to really prepare myself to go out into public. Sometimes we opt to just stay in for my own sake. I know she has been getting bored lately. We just moved far from home and we have not made any friends. She has recently made an older male friend at work who she is texting more and more as of late and well into the night. We'll be asleep and get a text that wakes us up past midnight! I was happy to hear she made a friend, but lately it's a getting concerning. She's the kind of person who needs a friend. When we lived near friends, she'd text with them late at night too. Male, female, it didn't matter. She just liked talking to her friends. I mean, I did it too with my own friends. But now that we're married, I'm of the mindset that spouses should keep their phone activity to a minimum late at night. She's very open about who she talks to. I've met the guy several times and he seems nice, but what really bothers me is that if I ever come up in their discussions, he seems to just somehow forget my name, what I'm like, etc. That just raises a red flag for me. I guess what I'm trying to say is this - I feel like this man would try to initiate in an affair with my wife before she did. I trust her, but it's difficult to trust him. I have read several threads on this forum with people having this same problem and it helped me learn about an emotional affair. I'm afraid my wife will stumble into one without meaning to, if she hasn't already. I plan to sit her down tonight and talk calmly with her. We keep discussion very open with each other. I'd just like some advice on where I should go with this. If there is anything in particular I should say or look out for. Thank you for your time. I hope that all made sense and please don't hesitate to ask for more info.

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