What have I done?

Hi all....some advice please. We got married 6 months ago, everything seemed right. Things have taken a turn for the worst lately. She changed a few months ago and got a bit more withdrawn. She recently let me know that she has been depressed. I think that it boils down to money. My checks pay the bills but there isn't much left over- she comes from a 'well to do' family that has never had to worry about money because there was always plenty of it. I should add also, that she is from Korea. There are some things that are blamed on cultural differences. She says that when there is something wrong, I should talk to her and not hold it in, but when I talk to her it agitates her and erupts into an argument. I have been facing things too, but I don't tell her because her depression is a full time job. What I face: *She is ashamed of my daughter, she does not let her friends know that I have a 16 yr old child. If the friends come to visit, she takes down the pictures of my daughter so they don't see. Also, I cannot be friends with her friends on Facebook because they might see that I have a daughter. (She says that this is because of her culture) *When I get my daughter (alternating weekends) my wife leaves and stays the night at her parents house. I think this hurts my daughters feelings. *We are accumulating debt, she has finally said that she will get a job. (she absolutely does not want a job). She has offered to make her own car payment, but has made it clear that she is going to purchase a $500 wallet because she needs a new wallet. She had a job recently and the money went to 'things', but not our debt. *She has been talking to a guy on her cellphone through text. I came home early a few days ago and caught her on the phone with him. I dont know if they have met in person or not lately. I was real angry, she said that I have nothing to worry about. At that moment she said we should forget the past and start over. So, she wants that forgotten about. Of course. *Her friends come first. She was even texting during our Valentines dinner and was on the phone the whole way home after our Valentines dinner. We went on the 13th to avoid the crowd. Then, on the 14th (V day), she stayed out drinking with her friends until 11 or 12pm. She said it was my fault because I have made her depressed. I have been putting up with some BS, but I want us to find our compatibility. She has finally stated that she is willing to talk to a marriage counselor with me. That much is good news. I asked her last night what I could possibly do to help her with this depression thing, she said for me to Google it. And that it's my fault. So..this is probably a beating to read through, but I believe that marriage should last, so I will fight until there is no light left in the tunnel. I guess maybe I want some tips on how to handle some of these things. Thank you

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