Husband had an EA ten years ago .Does it ever get better?

My husband had an EA with a co-worker over ten years ago . After going through some of my journals did I realize that I have really suffered with heartache and physical stuff because of this . My husband and OW developed a close relationship years ago . I remember the day I realized that he was truly in love with her and ended up in the ER with a racing heart . I told him he needed to distance himself from her . He kept telling me they were just friends and never really did anything about it . Only later when he realized that I had enough and was in danger of losing me that he distanced himself . The problem is that he is working in her area again and there have been clues over the years that they are still friends . (She brought flowers over from the gang and her at work when his dad died last year ,there was a plant left on the porch when he was ill ,no note ect.) . I don't know , do they ever get over their feelings in an EA? I do alright for a while then something will trigger old feelings like a bad dream or seeing her in the store . I feel sooo consumed and paranoid here recently . He is distant and preoccupied . I feel like something is off or maybe I'm just finally losing it . We plan on moving away on a year I hope I can hang on that long . I am also going to schedule an appointment with a MC . After reading my journals I know I need to deal with this . I also realize that I withdraw when I don't feel secure . Does it ever get better ? Can you learn to trust again ? I started to doubt in true love but realized my love for him is true even if his for me isn't .

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