Was he obsessed with her or am i overblowing it?

So about 3 years ago i snooped on my husbands youtube account (bad, i know) and uncovered messages to a minor youtube celebrity, first msg there dating back to 2007 (at that time we knew each other for a couple of months.), in which he went on about how amazing she was, and how she has that amazing happy personality that makes people around her happy. Funny how years later he's told me that i'm a downer that makes everyone depressed (I was dealing with depression for a big part of our relationship). 3 more messages after, 1 in 2008 which was pretty platonic, a similar one in 2009, and then another one a couple months later in 2009, which was the real kicker. He actually made up a story about going to her city and then asked if he could come hang out with her, and what he'd have to do for her to go out with him. All with smileys. We were already serious at the time. He claimed it was more of a joke and that it was a rhetorical question, still I was and sti ll am torn after all this years he would do that to me. He never actually met her or really talked to her. Though I only know of 4 messages I know there were also comments, because he asked if i saw the messages or the comments. He either deleted the comments or made them only visible to her because i didn't find any. Anyway, about a year later we had an ugly fight, i said something nasty, then apologized the next night. I could tell he was really mad. About 3 weeks later i noticed he changed his username on youtube. I realized that happened at around the same time she posted 2 of her old videos (which was on the day of the fight). Now I'm stuck wondering if he changed his username to message her again (perhaps a clean slate because his last msg before that which was an advance was turned down by her in her response?) I know there could be another reason, but is that really a coincidence? Suddenly changing his username that he's kept since 2006? He's not the kind of guy that 's easily impressed by anything. Him saying all those big words to her was a shocker to me. He never says he "loves" anything (except me haha) yet he had to message her just to tell her how much he loved her video. 4 or so messages over the years might not seem a lot but knowing his whatever, "meh" to everything personality this seemed like an obsession. Our relationship has grown and improved a lot, he's been a great husband to me, and i feel so stupid still being hung up on that, but maybe it's not knowing if he messaged her that time we had a fight, maybe i just need closure. i'm not sure how to get it though, and i know bringing up old stuff like that would be a huge setback for the relationship.

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