My husband told me a couple weeks ago he was having an emotional affair with a woman out of state he met on Facebook. He said he ended the romantic part but he hasn't stopped texting with her. He told me all kinds of stuff, like he hasn't been in love with me for half our 3 year relationship and was going through the motions. He's got a habit of coming on strong then losing interest in people. He says he is a user and selfish. That's a recent realization by him.
The trust is basically gone. You love them, but can't trust as far as you can throw them. I want to look at his phone but he would go on about his privacy.
He has started counseling. He loves me and our son, but likes having his ego stroked. He can't separate having things in common with and connecting with another woman from thinking he's in love with her. He thinks it's love, not friendship or simply having things in common.
He comes from a family where there was parental infidelity and dysfunction. I think growing up in that is part of his issue. He cheated on his last wife physically, but he said he hasn't done that to me. You never know though, unless you get evidence or they admit it. I can't talk to anyone but my therapist because I don't tell friends and family members about my relationship struggles. They can end up hating him, even if I forgive and we move on.
I'm here to have a place to discuss this.
The trust is basically gone. You love them, but can't trust as far as you can throw them. I want to look at his phone but he would go on about his privacy.
He has started counseling. He loves me and our son, but likes having his ego stroked. He can't separate having things in common with and connecting with another woman from thinking he's in love with her. He thinks it's love, not friendship or simply having things in common.
He comes from a family where there was parental infidelity and dysfunction. I think growing up in that is part of his issue. He cheated on his last wife physically, but he said he hasn't done that to me. You never know though, unless you get evidence or they admit it. I can't talk to anyone but my therapist because I don't tell friends and family members about my relationship struggles. They can end up hating him, even if I forgive and we move on.
I'm here to have a place to discuss this.
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