My husband and I didn't have sex in quite a while (weeks, maybe months... I lost count). I find myself feeling too lazy for it, too tired, too distracted. I don't feel extremely attracted to him. At least not enough to just jump on him. It's the same with me for him.
So in the past months we have had a lot of crap happening to us. Got robbed, money troubles, lost a pet, I lost my father. There's some troubles with work. There were troubles because of an ex (who tried to get him back - no success, but a lot of arguing, because I get very jealous and verbally aggressive). He mentioned he feels disrespected by me, when I felt like I do and take care of everything and everyone around me, just not much of myself anymore. Actually I forgot how to practically do take care of myself. My father died suddenly. Just 7 weeks ago. It's very tough for the family. I am only now really starting to understand/realize what happened and it's kind of "bad". I don't know if I am back in a depression, as I am still able to function day by day, but I lay awake almost every night. I have established a strange sleeping rhythm. Sometimes I don't react emotionally at all, other times Im over emotional. I can't concentrate much anymore and I stopped doing sports or caring much about the healthiness of my/our food. I find myself scared about myself, people around me, the future. It's a weird mixture and it's exhausting.
Nevertheless it bothers me that we don't have sex anymore. We hug a lot, we are very touchy but we don't (French) kiss and don't have actual intercourse. There was one bj and I'd like to give more, but find myself thinking it through so much that it becomes boring for me.
My question now: Do you think I/we should just jump start it again? Just give the bj, just start to have sex and then it will all slowly come back? The attraction and affection, the fun and the happiness and motivation it gives? Can it be that simple?
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So in the past months we have had a lot of crap happening to us. Got robbed, money troubles, lost a pet, I lost my father. There's some troubles with work. There were troubles because of an ex (who tried to get him back - no success, but a lot of arguing, because I get very jealous and verbally aggressive). He mentioned he feels disrespected by me, when I felt like I do and take care of everything and everyone around me, just not much of myself anymore. Actually I forgot how to practically do take care of myself. My father died suddenly. Just 7 weeks ago. It's very tough for the family. I am only now really starting to understand/realize what happened and it's kind of "bad". I don't know if I am back in a depression, as I am still able to function day by day, but I lay awake almost every night. I have established a strange sleeping rhythm. Sometimes I don't react emotionally at all, other times Im over emotional. I can't concentrate much anymore and I stopped doing sports or caring much about the healthiness of my/our food. I find myself scared about myself, people around me, the future. It's a weird mixture and it's exhausting.
Nevertheless it bothers me that we don't have sex anymore. We hug a lot, we are very touchy but we don't (French) kiss and don't have actual intercourse. There was one bj and I'd like to give more, but find myself thinking it through so much that it becomes boring for me.
My question now: Do you think I/we should just jump start it again? Just give the bj, just start to have sex and then it will all slowly come back? The attraction and affection, the fun and the happiness and motivation it gives? Can it be that simple?
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