First let me say its actually not a step father situation but I am living with my girlfriend. We have 5 children, all teenagers. 3 are mine. A 19 year old boy and twin 16 year old girls. She has a 16 year old boy and a 17 year old girl.
My children live with their mother. I pay 2k in support.
Her children go back and forth freely between the two houses. Her x pays 215.00 a month
Its CAR time. As you can see we have a lot of 16 year olds.
I have been saving for my twins for over a year and have put together a decent amount for a car. About 12-14k.
She purchased a car for her daughter for 3k a year and a half ago. Of course her daughter wants a better car as she sees my daughters looking for a car.
Its my GF's contention that it should be even. That I should not spend as much on my daughters car and spend more on her daughters. My ex will not be contributing as she does not make very much. Her ex does ok and did contribute to the first car. (long story...they purchased a 6k car for the 17 year old when she turned 16 and she got in an accident and totaled it....the 3k car was the replacement)
I said that major purchases should be up to her and her ex. After multiple arguments I agreed to contribute 2k and also purchase the existing car for my son. (thats another story...my son and I are not close at all but I am willing to get him transportation)
So the question is what is my financial responsibility to step children and major purchases? I certainly contribute more than equal amounts to the household and have not trouble giving some here and there to her daughter or son. But this car thing has me a little miffed.
My position is I give this 2k amount and she is going to put in 2k and with the sale of the existing that gives 6500.00. The rest is up to her ex husband who can either save his money for a more expensive car or he can go borrow the money. Its not my fault he has not saved for this. I did.
But my GF does not agree. Everything should be "even" and I should not purchase a car for my twins that costs more than what she and her ex can afford.
Its gotten to the point of ridiculousness and everyone is all pissed off.
Any input from anyone in this situation? I have read online that major financial issues with step children should not be the step parents issue. Wondering if anyone else is up against this?
My contention is she should be happy I am contributing anything. Nobody else is contributing to my kids car or anything else for that matter.
My children live with their mother. I pay 2k in support.
Her children go back and forth freely between the two houses. Her x pays 215.00 a month
Its CAR time. As you can see we have a lot of 16 year olds.
I have been saving for my twins for over a year and have put together a decent amount for a car. About 12-14k.
She purchased a car for her daughter for 3k a year and a half ago. Of course her daughter wants a better car as she sees my daughters looking for a car.
Its my GF's contention that it should be even. That I should not spend as much on my daughters car and spend more on her daughters. My ex will not be contributing as she does not make very much. Her ex does ok and did contribute to the first car. (long story...they purchased a 6k car for the 17 year old when she turned 16 and she got in an accident and totaled it....the 3k car was the replacement)
I said that major purchases should be up to her and her ex. After multiple arguments I agreed to contribute 2k and also purchase the existing car for my son. (thats another story...my son and I are not close at all but I am willing to get him transportation)
So the question is what is my financial responsibility to step children and major purchases? I certainly contribute more than equal amounts to the household and have not trouble giving some here and there to her daughter or son. But this car thing has me a little miffed.
My position is I give this 2k amount and she is going to put in 2k and with the sale of the existing that gives 6500.00. The rest is up to her ex husband who can either save his money for a more expensive car or he can go borrow the money. Its not my fault he has not saved for this. I did.
But my GF does not agree. Everything should be "even" and I should not purchase a car for my twins that costs more than what she and her ex can afford.
Its gotten to the point of ridiculousness and everyone is all pissed off.
Any input from anyone in this situation? I have read online that major financial issues with step children should not be the step parents issue. Wondering if anyone else is up against this?
My contention is she should be happy I am contributing anything. Nobody else is contributing to my kids car or anything else for that matter.
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