Hello. I'm new here. Im 31 years old and I have been married 10 years now. My husband and I have been through almost everything that would split a married couple up. Infidelity, Addiction, Lying, finance issues...Anyway here's my current situation.
About a year and a half ago my husband was fired from his job because a 15 year old girl told someone that they slept together. The accusation turned into a big deal and he got fired, arrested and it was in the paper for the community to see. Our name was dragged through the mud and we had a hard time getting through this. After a year of hell turns out the girl was lying and he was cleared of everything. But he did not get his job back. We split up for a short period of time because he got to where he just didnt even talk to me and cut me off totally emotionally. He works a cab job parttime and the owner is selfish and wont pay him on time.
Well we sought counseling and the marriage counselor told us it was a miracle we were still together. He told us to go to individual counseling and then come back together and work on our marriage. Well, he never sought individual counseling so here we are.
As of right now we are living in a small town that he grew up in and where all of his family is here. I have no family here and no friends. I work fulltime and pay all the bills and he just pretty much pays his car note and thats it. He can't find a job because all the crap that happened and he has a felony from the past. I am very unhappy here in this small town and Im ready to move back to my hometown in Tennessee. Where my family is and more than likely he can find a freakin job! He insists that he dosent want to move to my hometown because he hates it there. And he says that He and my daughter are my family, so why do I need to move close to my other family members. Which I think is pretty hypocritical because his family lives right down the road. Well I dont see the point in struggling to live here when we could move somewhere else and do alot better. It dont think it's right that I moved 7 hours away from my family to be with him and we have been here 10 years it's time for a change. Now my question is what do I do? Give him an ultimatium? Give him a time frame? It seems to me he really has no ambition for a change and really dosent care what I want. I'm tired of paying all these bills by myself! Im tired of all the stress!! Help!
About a year and a half ago my husband was fired from his job because a 15 year old girl told someone that they slept together. The accusation turned into a big deal and he got fired, arrested and it was in the paper for the community to see. Our name was dragged through the mud and we had a hard time getting through this. After a year of hell turns out the girl was lying and he was cleared of everything. But he did not get his job back. We split up for a short period of time because he got to where he just didnt even talk to me and cut me off totally emotionally. He works a cab job parttime and the owner is selfish and wont pay him on time.
Well we sought counseling and the marriage counselor told us it was a miracle we were still together. He told us to go to individual counseling and then come back together and work on our marriage. Well, he never sought individual counseling so here we are.
As of right now we are living in a small town that he grew up in and where all of his family is here. I have no family here and no friends. I work fulltime and pay all the bills and he just pretty much pays his car note and thats it. He can't find a job because all the crap that happened and he has a felony from the past. I am very unhappy here in this small town and Im ready to move back to my hometown in Tennessee. Where my family is and more than likely he can find a freakin job! He insists that he dosent want to move to my hometown because he hates it there. And he says that He and my daughter are my family, so why do I need to move close to my other family members. Which I think is pretty hypocritical because his family lives right down the road. Well I dont see the point in struggling to live here when we could move somewhere else and do alot better. It dont think it's right that I moved 7 hours away from my family to be with him and we have been here 10 years it's time for a change. Now my question is what do I do? Give him an ultimatium? Give him a time frame? It seems to me he really has no ambition for a change and really dosent care what I want. I'm tired of paying all these bills by myself! Im tired of all the stress!! Help!
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