I've been dating this guy for a month and we've been friends for a year before this so we know each other pretty well. I've noticed he isn't very spontaneous,we can happily amble about the city for hours chatting etc..but I always seem to be the one suggesting new things to do..i.e take the train somewhere,or a try a new bar etc.
.he said I'm his first proper relationship(we are 18 and 19 respectively and his last relationship was when he was 15..and in that they didnt do much but she wasnt bothered) and he isn't used to doing couple-y things and doesn't have much of an imagination as to what we could do..he said he will contribute and is wants to do whatever I suggest. I just want him to come up with spontaneous little things like that..he is being perfectly agreeable and offers to contribute..he said he just wants me happy but I feel he is just being lazy..
Another thing..this is my first relationship and I havent done anything sexual/or kissed before so I feel weird when I do with him(all weve done is light touching (my breasts over top but without bra) and kissing) and dry humping...he said he wants to please me and is happy with respecting that this is all I am comfortable with right now..but we got into a discussion about how he wants things to progress in that area in time.
..as is normal in a relationship but is not sure how to pr0gress and not offend me..he got caught up in making out and his hand lightly brushed my inside thigh/that area and I flipped out...so now he always asks. Whenever we are together he wants to make-out (as well as talk etc but he now wants to kiss more than before we were together).
..I'm worried thats all he cares about as that sort of activity has increased over the past few days...he has a higher 'sex drive' than me it seems...and is comfortable with dirty talk etc..whereas I am not.
An example..we went to the cinema yesterday and he said lets get the back seats..and jokingly whispered in my ear..lets get naughty at the back..and when we were watching he'd lean over and kiss me sometimes and stopped when he realised I wasnt in the mood...
Sorry for the text wall...I'm just not sure if there are problems here..and if they are with me or him..or both...
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