A really good friend of mine passed away some months ago and I had known him through secondary school and sixth form and even though I was away at university I kept in touch with him. He had a history of mental health problems meaning that he had to be held back a couple of years actually taking time off and coming back to do his a levels etc. he went onto university and did really well getting a first class degree and he really improved in terms of personality etc. he was happy, I was happy, his family were happy etc. then when he graduate he struggled to find a job and then he slowly regressed into his old ways a became increasingly reclusive and bizarre in his behaviour. I tried hard to help him whether it was getting him to come out, interact with the held even help him secure jobs by lining up interviews for him etc with big firms but he seemed to shy away and eventually it got frustrating for both us and we became distant. Though we did manage to kind of pat ch up and contact each other again in the end, I was preoccupied with my uni studies and then new job etc and hearing about his passing (suicide) just came like a bolt out of the blue,
Obviously I was devastated and still think about him even now. I feel I could have done more to encourage and help himand even though he shunned help and his family were incredibly over protective and suffocating of him, I could have done more. I feel so sad not only because I felt he could have achieved so much but perhaps he was never made to feel special by those around him.
I just wish I could have done more to help him. I miss him and his friendship.
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