Im in a LDR with a girl that lives around 80 miles away from me, we have met twice in the last six months since we started the LDR and are supposed to meet in the next week or so to as long as everything goes to plan.
I was really really in love with this girl, and still probably am, but recently we've been arguing a lot of little things and I honestly just cant put up with the distance as I was never for LDR's in the first place but I decided to give it a go with this girl as she pretty much saved my life in the summer while I was going through depression and I just thought she was so different from all the other girls I've ever met before.
The first time we met was in August when she came to my hometown as she has family here, now this is what sort of ruins it for me... I know ALL of her cousins, and most likely her aunts and uncles and so do my family. Like my mum knows her mums sister, my sister is really close friends with one of her close cousins and I am also friends with several of her cousins. This should I guess make it easy for us but we are from Asian backgrounds so it just complicates it massively for us and I just see no point in carrying on with the relationship if I dont see us eventually getting married one day mainly because I cannot stand her family that she has here.
I knew she had family here but it was not till a couple months ago that I found out who they were and I really do not like them as people just in general. She is madly in love with me, and I am in love with her to but I feel like I'm leading her on because Im having these thoughts already and still telling her I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
We had a bit of an argument this morning where she said 'I get the feeling that you're going off me and dont want to be with me anymore' because I was in a bad mood last night and Im bad at hiding anything that Im thinking or feeling. I reassured her that Im not going off her (probably a bad move) and now I feel like Im back to pretending that I want a future with her. Well I do but her family here put massive doubts on my feelings
Sorry for the long post but I needed somewhere to write this as its really eating me up, any advice or questions would be welcome as there is much more that I could write but the post is already long enough :p
I was really really in love with this girl, and still probably am, but recently we've been arguing a lot of little things and I honestly just cant put up with the distance as I was never for LDR's in the first place but I decided to give it a go with this girl as she pretty much saved my life in the summer while I was going through depression and I just thought she was so different from all the other girls I've ever met before.
The first time we met was in August when she came to my hometown as she has family here, now this is what sort of ruins it for me... I know ALL of her cousins, and most likely her aunts and uncles and so do my family. Like my mum knows her mums sister, my sister is really close friends with one of her close cousins and I am also friends with several of her cousins. This should I guess make it easy for us but we are from Asian backgrounds so it just complicates it massively for us and I just see no point in carrying on with the relationship if I dont see us eventually getting married one day mainly because I cannot stand her family that she has here.
I knew she had family here but it was not till a couple months ago that I found out who they were and I really do not like them as people just in general. She is madly in love with me, and I am in love with her to but I feel like I'm leading her on because Im having these thoughts already and still telling her I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
We had a bit of an argument this morning where she said 'I get the feeling that you're going off me and dont want to be with me anymore' because I was in a bad mood last night and Im bad at hiding anything that Im thinking or feeling. I reassured her that Im not going off her (probably a bad move) and now I feel like Im back to pretending that I want a future with her. Well I do but her family here put massive doubts on my feelings
Sorry for the long post but I needed somewhere to write this as its really eating me up, any advice or questions would be welcome as there is much more that I could write but the post is already long enough :p
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