Can Love Exist In Marriage Without Lust??

I'll try to keep the background brief. I have been married 20 years, 10 without kids and 10 since the birth of our first, 7 since the birth of our last. Our sex life before kids was 4-5x per week with a steady decline during having kids and since to about once a week for last three years. This has been really the only hitch in what has been otherwise a really great marriage. For a long time we talked about twice a year to try to figure out the problem which almost always came to some issue on my part, not asking enough, not going to bed at the same time, too much groping, not being romantic enough etc. I did try to work on these as they came up to no effect. Last year I convinced my wife to go to counseling for some serious anger management issues that kind of came out of nowhere when she accepted a new job that required an out of state move. Since she was already going we decided to try to discuss some of our relationship problems in couples sessions as well. During these sessions she admitted that she had changed since having kids and was really only interested in a once a week quickie which I am trying to be respectful and understanding of. However, I also brought up that I do not feel that she is attracted to me anymore which she has insisted is not true. I also brought up that she does not like that I find her attractive, especially when naked. As an example I pointed out that she wears very sexy professional clothes to work that often show her E cleavage but that she says such clothes are inappropriate when I ask she wear such clothes with me (less formal but still revealing). To her credit she did admit and backpedal on this and does now wear a lot of clothes I love when we are together (we shop for them on dates). She still says it makes her uncomfortable that I like to see her naked and she NEVER says I look good naked which I do think I do having lost 40 lbs and gotten in really good shape over the last year. Bottom line is that I do not think she finds me attractive and no longer really wants me to find her attractive (I do and still tell her anyway) and that this is what has led to the decrease in our sex life. BUT I also believe that the lack of attraction is because she really no longer LOVES me even though she says she does. I would like to know primarily from the ladies can love really still exist without lust??

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