Why Does TAM Work?

I wanted to share a humorous anecdote with all of you. When someone isn't having a breakthrough, I do venture outside this particular subforum from time to time. There was a post from a woman wondering if she got her boyfriend to read NMMNG if she'd be more attracted to him. I think you guys all know the answer to that. It's a relationship that's measured in a few months. Of course, they're already living together and she's freshly divorced. She was really honest. She admitted she "never" really had that physical connection with him and was hoping if he manned up that she'd find it. Of course, that relationship is doomed. And, to her credit, she did the right thing and gave him the freedom to look elsewhere. In that dialogue, I ran across a thought-provoking post from a guy who wanted to moan about how "frequently and inappropriately" the whole idea of NMMNG is applied to relationships on this board. He - literally - went on for paragraphs about the sorry state of relationships and that this is a one-sized fits all band-aid that likely doesn't do any good at all. At the end of his rant, I politely asked. "Tell me about the people you've helped" I'm still waiting for his answer. I'll bet Christmas comes first. Of course, I hope you are laughing by now. But, Janie and I have even discussed why I prefer TAM to "live" people. It's because TAM - and THIS subforum in particular is where people are most likely to actually listen. It's the place where the thumbscrews have us to the wall and we're open to something truly different in our lives. And, we see the need for it.

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